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My 18-year-old son is in a relationship with a very controlling girlfriend.
They have been together for over a year now but I (and the rest of the family) am concerned. She seems to be getting more and more controlling, and he is so kind and easy-going, he just lets her. As a mother, it is absolutely heart-breaking to watch this happening and I don't know what I can do.
A bit of context - they were both part of a big group of friends at high school. Somehow she fell out with everyone in the group and my son was made to side with her - he wasn't allowed to sit with or talk to any of his friends at school.
When he got his licence he wasn't allowed any other girls in his car, she made him leave group chats if other girls were in it. Since turning 18 he isn't allowed to go out to a pub with mates unless she goes too (she is 17). She has him on a Life 360 app and tracks him everywhere.
When he was playing football, she would be ringing him at least 10 times and he would get in trouble for not answering his phone, even when he was playing. If he has been invited to a party, she makes sure to organise something so he can't go. If he's at work, she just turns up at our house and waits for him.