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I have a dilemma I need help with.
Two of my high school friends and I are planning a catch-up in Japan next year.
We all live in different countries now and have not seen each other for five years. We have another friend who I know would be keen for the trip if she knew about it, but my mates don’t want her to be there because she’s hard to plan with and is a bit of a flaky person. I am the only one who has been in touch with her since leaving high school.
Also, the three of us who are going to Japan are bringing our partners and my friend is currently single. I don’t want her to find out we’re going from someone else or social media. How do I tell her that we are going to Japan without hurting her feelings?
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