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lucinda May 18, 2020

My 2 favourites are the last scene from First Wives Club where they are dancing to "You Don't Own Me" and the scene in Bridget Jones' Baby where she starts singing "All By Myself" and changes to it the rap. I can watch them both on repeat.

lucinda October 19, 2014

Yay, exactly!! I just want to add one pet hate - where people use the phrase "as a mother" or "as a parent" while talking about world issues. As though being a parent makes you hate IS more than if you didn't have kids.

lucinda October 19, 2014

First, it's your job to ask about those things, not your friend's job to tell. And second, make sure that when they do, you don't bite back with a bitter remark. I hate it when I'm telling a story about going out for dinner, and the only response I get is a dark comment like "huh, I wish I had the time/money to go out to dinner, but I guess I won't for another 18 years".

Third, do you really spend your day in a room with your child and do NOTHING else? Don't watch any TV, read a magazine or a book, try a new recipe, have a run-in with your mother in law? I don't only talk to my friends about what happened this week. You tell me about a book you just read, I may have read it 5 years ago - but I can still have a conversation about it. Or I have have read another book by the same author 5 years ago, or I may have read a book that is a bit similar at some time in the past - hey presto, a conversation!

lucinda October 19, 2014

"Just because our battles are different doesn't mean we don't need support!" - couldn't agree more. I hate it when people act like no one could possibly be tired unless they have a newborn, or have a busy weekend if they aren't ferrying kids to 5 different sports, or have a messy house if they live alone. Life doesn't have to be a competition, with empathy only going to the winner.

lucinda October 16, 2014

Brazil ran an entire public campaign on this, asking people to pee in the shower to conserve water. Really, I don't get the problem. Let's save water.

lucinda October 15, 2014

Correct, I think this question was harmful to both men and women. Just because it was unfair towards men doesn't make it any fairer to women.

lucinda October 15, 2014

Actually, I do think of the boys. Every time someone refers to a job like nursing as a woman's job, boys are taught not to really consider it as a job. People are encouraged to laugh at male nurses, or question why they chose that job and didn't become a doctor or imply that they only chose that job to be around all the young nurses. These ridiculous assumptions and stereotypes are perpetuated daily, in lots of little ways, and they hurt everyone.

lucinda October 15, 2014

Yep, got asked many times when I was a lawyer if I was a secretary. Happens all the time.

lucinda October 15, 2014

I kind of agree about the mirror, but I think it was deliberate. What were they expecting? Why ask a questions like that? I don't believe they were expecting the answers to be the same for both lists. I don't believe they were expecting the answers for a woman's job to be CEO, judge or prime minister, or mowing the lawn. So maybe misogynistic isn't the right accusation to level at them, but I definitely think they were in the wrong.

lucinda October 15, 2014

I actually loved it. Even the first time. The scene where think sing karaoke and the one where Miranda and Charlotte confess their true mothering feelings are some of the best ever in any movie. I hate how I'm always having to defend this opinion!

lucinda October 15, 2014

I'm a bit insulted by that comment. Not sure what you would count as "quite young", but I'm 32. Without going into my life history, I have a huge level of responsibility in my life so I certainly don't think I'm immature. Actually, I think I'm quite mature for my age.

Also, I don't know how you can say that I never accept women are responsible for any bad behaviour when my last comment said "I agree she was in the wrong". Of course some women go after married men. Of course some women are malicious bitches. But to me, that is no excuse for a man cheating on his partner (or vice versa).

I must have a much higher opinion of men than you do - I believe they are fully capable of saying no. It just society, including you, continually acts like men can't help themselves, so it's the woman who is in the wrong. I say bull. He was in a relationship, he had made promises to be faithful to someone, he broke those promises. I don't care about temptations, it is no excuse. And I can guarantee that if I was in his girlfriends shoes, I would be blaming him, 100%. I may not like Cat, and I probably would have little respect for her, but it is still HIS fault that HE cheated.

lucinda October 14, 2014

They already are in the US. Private health is through your employer and covers pregnancy, doctors, gyno visits, contraception. Extending that to egg freezing, and costs associated with adoption (also covered by these employers) is no great leap. And it only covered through the private health fund, so the employer would not actually know what procedures the employees are choosing.

lucinda October 14, 2014

Exactly. I don't support what she did, but really it is irrelevant to his behaviour. End of story.

lucinda October 14, 2014

Look, I agree that she was in the wrong, but no way are they "equally" to blame. The person in a relationship absolutely has 100% responsibility to NOT cheat, no matter what. We shouldn't even be talking about her - her actions are totally irrelevant to the fact that he cheated.

lucinda October 14, 2014

Of course some feminists complain about that, especially engagement rings for which there is no male equivalent. Plenty of feminists see that, and indeed marriage, as unnecessary or a carry-over from marriage as an oppressive institution.

However, lots of us look at what rings and "bling" mean today. As most married couples live together for years before they marry, they have some form of joint finances so it isn't uncommon for women to contribute to their own ring (I've known many who have). I also know many, many women (whether they identify as feminist or not) who have either bought/asked for a zirconia ring because they don't like the money wasted on diamonds, used family rings, had no ring/jewellery at all and I've even had one friend who proposed to her husband with a ring, she doesn't have one at all.

lucinda October 14, 2014

Equality is about choice. Women should have the same choices as men, people of colour the same choices as white people. That is what we mean when we say it is about choice. A choice to vote, to own property, to work in any job, to have children, to not have children, to marry or not marry, to change your name, which name to give your children and so on. Equality is all about choice.

lucinda October 14, 2014

When it comes to the family tree in 100 years, your entire life is a blip, so I don't think that is much of an argument.

lucinda October 13, 2014

Not many property developers have cameras following them 24 hours a day, either. Or have someone else set the sale price. Or have to interrupt their work for high pressure challenges.

lucinda October 13, 2014

Thank you!

lucinda October 13, 2014

I think you are confusing status updates with messaging. I agree you don't need to put everything on the public part of facebook, but the messaging is just like email/texting - private, only those in the conversation can see it. I don't use it with ALL my fb friends, but I regularly use this to coordinate training sessions, dinners and so on with friends. I have a team going to a basketball tournament in a few weeks, we are spread out over Qld and it has been so easy for us all to be in the one conversation to sort out money, accomodation, uniforms, and talking about how excited we all are!

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