It's usually first thing in the morning that Amy will text me.
Over the past year and a half, she's reached out at least ten times expressing strife over her boyfriend's behaviour.
I'll wake up to long paragraphs like little digital bricks of frustration. I comb through the phrases he used, the repulsive behaviours, the red flags so large he could wear one to dinner. All I can think to myself during these micro-therapy sessions is — why?
Why are you still with him?
I've voiced my concerns in coded ways as to not stir the volatile pot. I don't want to alienate her, but I care about her. This makes phrasing become a balancing act.
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I was dealing with my relationship drama about a year ago, and at the time issues in our respective relationships were mutual. I was a mirror of her and her boyfriend's dynamic, and though both of us knew her boyfriend's behaviour was wrong, the pendulum was equal, and there was no urgency for her to leave him.
Not that my relationship is stable, the contrast is stark.