1. You notice that they’re charming, but that they can be charming to an actual fault.
Narcissists are incredibly charismatic and draw people to them like a magnet. They’re the type of people who have that quality about them that makes you WANT them to like you, WANT them to pay attention to you, WANT their eyes on you. And that’s exactly their goal. They’re so charming, so fascinating, that it starts to distract people around them from the not-so-great things that they do in their day to day life outside of being a smooth talker.
2. They walk all over people in your life.
A narcissist is without question, all about what best serves them, what they want, and the immediacy of getting whatever that may be. This turns them, frankly, into total social pariahs. They’re rude to staff people, strangers on the streets, even your own friends and family. If a narcissist doesn’t see someone’s value in serving them — they simply do not care to treat that person with even an ounce of dignity.
3. Their confidence is unshakeable — even when they’re wrong.
Someone who is a narcissist never thinks that they could even be the slightest bit mislead or wrong. About anything. They would attribute Barack Obama quotes to themselves if they thought they’d get away with it. But in all seriousness narcissists are confident to a point of it being problematic. Confidence is great, self-awareness is better. And narcissists are only able to have one.
4. You’ve gotten to a point where it feels like even the slightest bit of attention from them is a blessing.
They are so charismatic and so charming that there is almost an overwhelming sense of euphoria when they turn their focus your way. If you hear yourself saying, “You just don’t understand it. I feel so different with them,” or anything close to that? You’re definitely in too deep with a narcissist.
5. Absolutely none of their previous relationships have kind things to say about them.
Narcissists live by the idea of “may the bridges I burn light my way” and leave mass amounts of wreckage in their wake. They hurt people with no remorse and are definitely the exes that come with “warning labels.”
6. They are the kings of flattery…but with a catch.
Narcissists only flatter people because they have an agenda. They’ll compliment you to get in good with you because you have something or access to something that they want. None of their compliments or flattery is ever 100% genuine, because it comes with a stipulation or a “catch” attached to it.