When I fell pregnant I was sure I was having a girl. Mainly because the psychic that is never wrong told me so. But on this one occasion, she was a little off.
Girl names are easy. There are so many pretty, fun, cool names. One of my favourites, Stella, was a hard no from my husband.
She was my alter ego when I had one too many Patron shots back in my hay-day. But for Benji, Stella was a little obnoxious and wild, always dancing on bar tops and starting fights. I agreed to let it pass.
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When I found out I was having a boy, (not from the psychic – from the ultrasound) I was dumbfounded. I had already had a list of girl names and now I had to start from scratch. A name holds so much weight. It means something.
I knew I didn’t want a conventional name. I always knew that from the time I heard all of Paula Yate’s children’s names I thought – yes! I can see myself with a Peaches! I still love that name.
So I started making a list. Teddy (short for Theodore) super cute but everyone was doing it. Leo, also gorgeous but my friend had a Leo. Then nothing. I had no more names. I did love Wolf and Bear.
Unfortunately, Benji can’t say Bear without it sounding like “beer” because of his Kiwi accent. This would eventually become a problem.
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Then I was watching our wedding video a couple months before the baby was due. This video went viral. You can Youtube it. At 11:35 in the video, I found the baby name.
Benji and I had always referred to each other as each other’s Arctic Fox. They are one of the few animals that mate for life. It was a cute and corny thing we had kept private.
On our wedding day, we had written our vows secretly and had both mentioned the Arctic Fox in our vows to one another. It gave me such a kick, a little inside moment on our wedding day.
I thought Fox. That is perfect. I didn’t know any baby Foxs . No friends were named Fox, no weird exes or people we didn’t like from work. It was clean. A rarity in the name game.