The following discusses sexual assault and consent.
Consent Laid Bare is an educational book that factually and, in an of-the-moment-way, reports on a number of prevalent issues that the majority of young people face every day. The subjects in this extract are further explained and thoroughly detailed in the other chapters of the book, available here.
We all understand ‘rape’ to be bad, in that we would all be furious if a strange man jumped out of the bushes and raped a woman. In fact, if he did it to someone you cared about, you would probably react quite emotively to the situation. But this type of rape is very rare.
Have you ever heard the fact that you’re more likely to be raped by someone who you know than a stranger? This used to confuse me, as I falsely believed that it meant that someone I knew was actually a creepy predator, and that they were just concealing this from me. I trusted my judgement of my friends and acquaintances too much to believe this. Turns out, what it actually means is that the most common types of sexual assaults are ones that do not fall into a stereotypical category of rape.
There are four different types of rapists; if you would like to learn about the other three, go to pages 43–51 where I elaborate further. But for the sake of brevity, I will skip straight to the entitled opportunist.