
USBachelorette andBachelor in Paradisestar, Tanner Tolbert announced in an interview that his wife, Jade Roper isn’t interested in having sex with him, now that the couple have just welcomed their second child, Brooks Easton Tolbert.
Did we mention she only gave birth four weeks ago?
Speaking to fellow US Bachie alum, Nick Viall, on the podcast The Viall Files, the 32-year-old influencer noted that his relationship with his wife had “changed completely,” and that while he still wants to have sex, she “wants it less”.
“It took a dive [when Jade was breastfeeding their first daughter, Emmy] and then pretty much right after the breastfeeding stopped, we got pregnant again with Brooks,” he said.
“And now he’s here and we have two kids. It is tough. I feel like I’ve begged for it. And I don’t want to feel selfish—I hate asking, I hate trying, ’cause I don’t want it to be pity sex.”
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To be fair, he did acknowledge that her attention “should be on the kids, not me,” but he also felt the need to add that he does “feel on the back burner”.
And the world’s smallest violin played on in the background.
Although Jade has yet to comment on her husband’s rant, the 32-year-old has publicly spoken about the difficult birth of her second child. On July 31, the US Bachelor alum and former pastry chef, ‘accidentally’ gave birth in the couple’s master closet after a 75 minute labour.
“I’ve been still processing the shock of this all, as this was not all at what I had planned, but I am so so thankful for each person who helped bring our son into the world safely,” she shared in an Instagram post from July.
“Long story short, my waters broke and 75 minutes later I gave birth to our healthy baby boy while clutching a bench in our closet.
“It was one of the scariest moments of my life because I felt so out of control, but Tanner, Tanner’s mom, my mom and the medics and firefighters kept me going when I felt like the world was caving in on me and my unborn baby.”
Speaking toMamamia in 2016, Sydney-based midwife Krystal Dirkins says most women will reintroduce sex with their partners at around the “six-week mark,” adding that it probably won’t feel the same post-birth.
“I always suggest that women wait until their postnatal check up and until post-partum bleeding has finished (to avoid any risk of infection),” she said.
“It’s also important to tell women that sex for the first few times after childbirth will hurt. I’ve had women come to me in tears thinking things will never improve or that they are somehow damaged from the birth. That’s not true. It takes time but it will get better.”
Krystal also said that in her experience almost every woman will experience “difficult sex after childbirth,” advising couples to use lubricant.
“Not only are you contending with trauma to the area but estrogen can make the vaginal walls very thin, which can be uncomfortable,” she said.
“Your natural lubricants are also almost non-existent for a lot of women so make sure you use lubricant to prevent friction, which is a common cause of discomfort for women during sex.”
In spectacularly unsurprising news, Twitter did not sympathise with Tanner, for reasons that had everything to do with the fact that she just gave birth to a human, and he didn’t.
This is what they had to say…
It’s depressing & shocking to hear how ignorant men will pressure new moms into postpartum sex against standard medical advice. Just straight up endanger the wife’s/child’s mother’s health! It’s appalling.
— JennyDC (@JennyDC18) August 29, 2019
Hey bro, your wife is 4 weeks postpartum. Cut her some slack. Technically she shouldn’t even be having sex yet.
— Amanda Hitchcock (@ahathaway66) August 29, 2019
Listening to the podcast. It’s really soon post partum to be expecting sex from Jade. I know it’s hard (pun not intended)- I get it- but we need to *heal* in that area afterwards. It was at least 6-8 weeks or more before I wasn’t sore. Plus we were too tired anyway. ????????♀️
— BachCatMom (@BachCatMom1) August 28, 2019
I’ve seen her talking about being stitched up and this guy is bitching about not getting enough sex 4 weeks post partum? Barf
— Elle (@bibachfan) August 30, 2019
The worse kind of dudes are those who feel “on the back burner” & complain about not having sex 4 weeks pp. Someone should educate him on the pain that comes with child birth & everything that breastfeeding does to a woman’s body. ????
— Scooter (@s_dicristino) August 29, 2019
Whoa my doctor didn’t even clear me for sex for 8-10 weeks after baby. Her body is still healing and she’s been through physical and emotional trauma. Give her some time and support.
— RP562826 (@RP562826) August 29, 2019
If he wants sex, all he has to do is the laundry, vacuuming, dusting, and everything else that she can’t get done because of the baby, and then she’ll have enough time & energy to jump his bones. Simple
— Gina (@ginajacobs820) August 29, 2019
Yo tanner. Your wife just had a baby in her closet. No meds and you’re mad about waiting to have sex until she’s completely healed?! Man, that’s insane!
— Jennifer (@Jennifermoneto) August 29, 2019
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Jessica Wang
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