Having sex for the first time after childbirth is a lot like losing your virginity. It’s awkward, it’s messy and yeah, it hurts a bit.
Firstly, think back on all the things your body (and vagina) have gone through to get that small person out into the world. Depending on what kind of birth you ended up with, you’re dealing with stretching, tears, surgical cuts, and stitches all of which need adequate time to heal before you even consider getting back on the horse, so to speak.
But what are we talking? Days? Weeks? Months?
Well, it’s all up to the individual as to when she feels ready to get back into intimacy in the bedroom but from a medical point of view, you should give your body at least a month to recover.
“I always suggest that women wait until their postnatal check up and until post-partum bleeding has finished (to avoid any risk of infection),” says Sydney-based midwife Krystal Dirkins, “for most women that would be around the six-week mark.”
“It’s also important to tell women that sex for the first few times after childbirth will hurt. I’ve had women come to me in tears thinking things will never improve or that they are somehow damaged from the birth. That’s not true. It takes time but it will get better,”
“Not only are you contending with trauma to the area but estrogen can make the vaginal walls very thin, which can be uncomfortable. It’s normal, almost every woman experiences difficult sex after childbirth”
“Your natural lubricants are also almost non-existent for a lot of women so make sure you use lubricant to prevent friction, which is a common cause of discomfort for women during sex.”