The pointy finger of judgement is often poked in the direction of women, tearing apart their life, looks, and lifestyle. Celebs cop it daily, publicly scrutinised and called out for every bad decision or choice they make. ‘Normal’ people do not escape unscathed, with incidences of trolling and online bullying escalating, out of control.
“More and more women are choosing not to have children. They are no longer a rare breed. Yet the comments from family, friends and complete strangers have a sting to it when they weigh into a deeply personal decision,” she said.
“Sadly, the decision comes with consequences and a lot of judgement.
“Society has a hard time wrapping its head around the fact that some women do not want to have children. When faced with this anomaly, it is too hard for people to understand because it doesn’t fit with what we have been raised to accept as normal.”
Tanya said why is it okay to question one woman’s right not to have children but not a women’s right to have children?
“Does a woman’s life only have value if we are having babies and looking after people?” she asked.
Why do we feel the need to judge others, whose lives do not directly impact us, who are not hurting us with their choices?
Psychologist Lisa Johnson, from Engagement Psychologist, said people believe that if you are in a happy, healthy, functional relationship that children are expected.