
The following contains details of sexual assault, child abuse and eating disorders, which may be triggering for some readers.
When Grace Tame was crowned Australian of the Year last year, she was given a platform to champion the voices of sexual assault and child abuse survivors. But her time in the spotlight has also come with its own set of challenges.
Speaking at the National Press Club on Wednesday, Tame shared that she received a "threatening" call from a senior member of a government-funded organisation on August 17, months after accepting the honorary award.
Tame recalled the person asked "for my word that I wouldn't say anything damning about the prime minister on the evening of the next Australian of the Year Awards".
"'You're an influential person. He'll have a fear... with an election coming soon'," she recounted the person saying.
Tame went on to say she would rather speak up about what she believes and disappoint high members in the government rather than "sell out as a pandering political puppet to the corrupt forces that coercively control it."
Watch: Brittany Higgins and Grace Tame address the National Press Club in powerful speeches. Post continues below.
In December, Tame spoke toMamamia's No Filterpodcast about the other lows and highs that have arisen since being named Australian of Year.
What Tame has ultimately realised is that two competing things can be true at once. She feels grateful for the incredible opportunity to be a representative of an often disempowered community: but Tame also acknowledges the toll of retelling trauma on a daily basis.
“My mind was racing.”
When Tame first heard her name, announcing she was Australian of the Year for 2021, a million thoughts were running through her head.
She thought of her story. Her family. The other sexual assault and child abuse survivors around the country.
“I was there as a representative of a community, the survivors of child sexual abuse who for such a long time have been stigmatised, marginalised and really disempowered,” she told Mia Freedman. “It was hugely symbolic and encouraging to get up on that stage.”
But there was also an incredibly private part of that moment in front of the audience and cameras.
“Ten to 11 years before that exact moment, I was being abused. There was some guilt like, ‘why me? Why was I the one chosen? What about all the other girls and boys who have been through hell, and won't get this sort of opportunity’,” Tame said.
“But ultimately, I was thinking about other people watching at home who hopefully could see it was possible to transcend and to transform.”
Then the whirlwind began. Tame was immediately thrust into the media storm, relying on her family and partner Max for emotional support.
As Tame said onNo Filter, she doesn’t want to seem “ungrateful or complain”, but she would be lying if she said this experience wasn’t incredibly difficult for her.
“I believe in accountability.”
Tame has generated meaningful conversation and calls for action, ringing true to her speech last January where she set off a rallying cry: “Let’s make some noise, Australia!”
There have been criticisms levelled at the 27-year-old for her ‘outspokenness’, often from shock jocks and conservative media commentators.
But Grace has never been afraid to speak out, expressing what she says are “legitimate criticisms of the Federal Government.”
“I do have a tendency to call a spade a spade and believe in accountability. I have been disappointed by the responses of certain federal politicians,” she said onNo Filter.
Listen to Mia Freedman's full chat with Grace Tame on No Filter. Post continues after audio.
In March last year, the Department of the Prime Minister and his Cabinet conducted a review into the nomination process for the National Australia Day Council. It was a decision announced not long after Tame’s 2021 Press Club speech and her public support for Brittany Higgins.
“I'm a little bit rougher around the edges. There’s a lot of people who really wanted me to just cut ribbons and be quiet and sit down,” Tame notes.
It rots from the top. Parliament’s ecosystem of abuse has been revealed. 15 minutes after the 500-page Review launched today, Scott was already claiming it’s a safer workplace than when Brittany was there. This, days after he coercively orchestrated the ambush of Bridget Archer. pic.twitter.com/JSSv4vw9wj
— Grace Tame (@TamePunk)
But as Tame highlights, her media-ready public persona and ability to articulate her feelings and messages means that some people think she is "fair game".
“It’s not so much personal pain when I see the hatred towards me. It’s the concern that I have for other survivors who are watching really closely who might not have spoken out yet. And they see that vitriol towards me and the cause and it discourages them.”
“The trauma, it lingers.”
When Tame accepted her Australia Day award, many already knew a part of her story. But what some didn’t know was that Tame was recovering from an active eating disorder as well.
At the time she was very underweight, running obsessively and hadn’t had a menstrual period for a very long time. It wasn’t until later this year she finally had a period again, having never had a regular cycle her whole life due to her eating disorder. It was something her paedophile maths teacher also weaponised through coercive control.
“Every time I look in the mirror, and I'm feeling down about my changing body shape, I hear his voice. And it’s f***ed,” Tame said.
“There is a trauma associated with reliving my past almost every day: it doesn’t just go away. Even if there’s a day I don’t do an interview and I don’t answer questions, there’s still a lag: it doesn’t dissipate immediately.”
Isabella Ross
Senior News Writer
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