Fact: people in relationships fight. It’s just what we do, right?
It’s impossible for two people to be in complete agreement on everything at all times (or is it?), and overcoming
screaming matches disagreements is one part of sharing your life with someone.
Be it over leaving milky cereal bowls in the sink for days or differing opinions on how to parent, what constitutes an argument is subjective and unique to every couple. But how much fighting in a relationship is OK and is there a type or amount that isn’t?
Side note -Mamamia staff share their ultimate relationship deal breakers in the video below, any sound familiar? Post continues after video.
Here, 26 Aussie women share an insight into the kinds of fights going on in their relationships.
From how often and how heated, to what they’re fighting about in the first place, it’s a snapshot of what “normal” couples in relationships are actually arguing about behind closed doors.
1. 27, together for five years and living together for one.
My partner and I have two fights over and over again. The first is about why we don’t have more sex. Are we normal? Do you desire me? Am I not attractive to you anymore? We have this fight once a fortnight or so. The second fight we have monthly or whenever something like a wedding, birthday or a significant occasion comes up. It is: can you see a future with me? My partner lives very much in the ‘now’ and doesn’t like to think too far ahead, but I’m yearning for a commitment. I don’t want to be engaged right now, but I also don’t want to get another year into our relationship and be in the same place we are now.
2. 25, together for almost three years and married for one.
The only serious fight we’ve ever had was when I fell asleep after he’d given me his keys and he was locked out.. so he had to find a hotel to sleep in (so bad). Apart from that, I try and pick fights when I get annoyed about household stuff but he never budges. It’s so frustrating, I can’t imagine being that level-headed. We occasionally have disagreements about his regular conversations with his ex-girlfriend because they still share a dog together. He says they’re ‘logistical conversations’, but she still likes to talk to him about everything. He says if we want to keep seeing the dog, then I should just deal with it.