He was insistent that he couldn’t leave his wife until I was able to be there for him. At the time, I lived in Minnesota and he lived in Tennessee. I told him that I needed to find a job and an apartment first, but that the sooner he came clean about wanting a divorce, the better it would be for everyone involved.
He still wanted me to promise to be there as soon as he left, and we decided to make plans for everything to happen in July.
The plans we made were very surreal. Anytime you fall for someone online, it’s difficult to feel that it’s actually happening. Personally, I struggled a lot with that weird sense of reality. I felt guilty about having an affair with a married man. I knew I was playing with fire and I wasn’t sure where it all would lead.
The affair began online in early February. We met in real life in mid-May. Just a week after I flew down to Tennessee so we could finally meet, he told his wife he wanted a divorce.
Without warning me.
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He didn’t do it for me or for us. The reason he finally told his wife was because he’d confessed the affair to a guy friend who said he couldn’t respect him unless he told his wife the truth.
In reality, he didn’t actually tell his wife the truth. Instead, he simply said he wanted a divorce. When she asked if there was someone else, he insisted there wasn’t.
“She’s going to find out about me,” I said. “It will be even worse for her to discover you lied about cheating. And it will be worse for me if everybody thinks I was the only one.”
Still, he refused to come clean. He couldn’t, he claimed. His wife packed up their three kids and drove out of state to spend time with her parents. He decided to drive up to see me.