A bride-to-be went wedding dress shopping with her mother-in-law. Then, she received a text.


New mother-in-law relationships can be sensitive at the best of times, however Reddit user Bamboo2u has found herself in a bit of a tricky situation.

Reaching out on the online community for help, she says she invited her MIL to come wedding dress shopping with her mother, her fiancé’s sister and a few friends.

Everything was going perfectly, or at least that’s what she thought.

“Overall we had a great day and I got the most amazing dress. My mum cried and my fiancé’s mum cried it was special,” she wrote.

Sharing a conversation they had at lunch, the Reddit user said they spoke about whether or not she should keep her maiden name after the wedding and while it seemed like they had resolved the issue, they clearly hadn’t.

“At lunch my mum told everyone she’d suggested I keep my maiden name for work only and take my fiancé’s name for my personal life,” she continued.

“I have a problem with clients asking to be friends on Facebook and Instagram which I cannot do because it goes against my work’s rules. I want to keep my personal life private from my work life.

“My fiancé’s mum agreed with my mum because that is what she does for work too.”

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However, after they parted ways, the bride-to-be received a text from her MIL, and it definitely wasn’t meant for her.

“I made the mistake of reading it from my car with my fiancé in the car,” she wrote.


“The text said the whole day was a shit show and that my mum advised me to not take my fiancé’s name for career reasons.”

Now, Bamboo2u says she’s worried that her MIL is spreading rumours about her mum behind her back, even after her fiancé asked his mum to apologise.

“He asked his mum to apologise for what she said but she is refusing,” she wrote.

“Honestly, I’m more worried she is now going around to his family and saying mean things about my mum. I’m starting to think she is jealous of my mum.”

“I saw my future mother-in-law the other day and she refused to look at me or even talk to me. But I’m the kind of person who likes to kill you with kindness which seems to drive her crazy.”

The responses to her question were mixed.

The most upvoted response advised her to remain “polite-but-distant,” with many comments agreeing with that approach.

“When people show you who they are, believe them. As of right now, she gets no more information from you than you would give to an obnoxious coworker that you don’t want to fight outright with,” they wrote.

“You can’t really do anything about it – she’s not going to change. It wasn’t about your mum in the slightest.”

However, another user advocated for a more “direct” response.

“I’d pull out the big guns and get this sorted now. Make sure he’ll back you up because she’ll run to him crying,” they wrote, advising her to send the following text.

“MIL, what did you mean by this text? I thought we all had a nice day, I decided on the name thing as did FH. So did my mom. I’m only going to ask you once… What’s your problem?”

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