Kara* had been married for around 20 years before she found out about the affair.
A friend of one of her husband's family members told her. She said she'd been cheated on too and refused to sit back and stay quiet.
It was the last thing Kara expected. But despite the crushing hurt, with seven children together, Kara forgave him.
"I think I was numb, then so hurt. It took me about three days before I could look at him. Stupidly, I allowed myself to be convinced that our relationship was worth saving."
But it wasn’t easy, and five months later, Kara’s husband left her for his mistress.
"The impact it had on me was soul crushing. I had been so manipulated and conditioned, forgiving felt like my only option. Looking back, I should have kicked his ass to the kerb and not looked back."
What Kara didn't know is that this wasn't her husband's first affair. But it wasn't until after he'd left, leaving Kara devastated and broken, that the real truth came out.
“From what I know now, there was no 'before the affair'. It seems he was a serial cheater for the entire 20 years, with multiple women.”
Had she known, things may have been different for Kara, she may have made different decisions. Turns out though, many people did know.