“We’ve found two large fibroids, each is the size of an orange,” she said to me, her tone careful and calm.
There’s something about receiving that type of information in a doctor’s office that feels as if you are watching it on an Australian soap drama.
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“Okay,” was all I said back.
Not oh, f*ck?, or holy sh*t, or what does that mean!? But just, okay.
The leadership role of response I would usually embody in that instant evaded me and I sat there wide-eyed like a new recruit on my first day, too paralysed to ask questions, so just waiting for an adult to give me instructions.
Somewhere in the 1990s
Somewhere in the 90s I absorbed the core belief that women had to make life easy for men.
Don’t be a hindrance to them… Be easy to get along with. I look back now and see an unlimited amount of resources I took this belief on from. I’m going to hazard a guess and say it started around 1990 on the Sunday mornings I spent listening to sermons preaching things like *Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord or **Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve.
Understood, nine-year-old me thought as I saw my parents, teachers and all the adults I knew to nod their heads as the Pastor roared from the pulpit.
If I did what my parents, teachers and church leaders said, I was always told I was a good girl.
It was further reinforced in 1995 as my teenage girlfriends and I sat around reading DOLLY magazine, the articles telling us How To Be The Type Of Girl Boys Want To Date! And Lure Your Crush; Here’s How!