'He'd ask me to do things.' R Kelly's ex says he wanted to relive his own child sex abuse.

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Although he was once synonymous with some of the biggest R&B and Hip-Hop hits, R. Kelly’s fall from grace is staggering.

In July 2019 the ‘Ignition’ singer was arrested in Chicago and has since been denied bail and is currently awaiting trial in New York, Minnesota and Chicago on both state and federal charges. Just some of these charges include child sexual exploitation, child pornography production, kidnapping, forced labour, racketeering, and obstruction of justice.

In 2019, a documentary series, Surviving R Kellywas released in which multiple women made allegations of emotional, sexual and physical abuse against the R&B artist. The six-episode series documented his childhood, rise to fame and illegal marriage to the then 15-year-old singer Aaliyah. Since then, the allegations against Kelly, whose real name is Robert Sylvester Kelly have continued. He has denied allegations.

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Although he still vehemently denies these allegations, we take a look at the history of allegations which have been made against the singer.


In a new interview, Kelly’s former victim, Kitti Jones, has detailed the singer’s abusive methods.

The DJ told Dr. Oz she was “starved excessively,” often “slapped, kicked” and beaten and had to ask permission from “a runner” to use the bathroom.

“[The] longest that I had gone was almost three days, but I had passed out,” she said.

During their two-year relationship from 2011 to 2013, she said Kelly told her he was “sexually abused” as a child by “a man in the neighbourhood”.


“Later in the relationship, there were things that he would ask me to do to him, sexually, that I connected to the abuse,” she added.

“And that’s when I would feel really ill doing it to him because I knew where it was coming from. It was some pretty graphic things.”


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In early January, Kelly’s ex-girlfriend and former victim, Azriel Clary, spoke to The Sun about the horrific ways Kelly abused his victims.

Clary, 22, moved in with Kelly when she was just 17. She became one of Kelly’s many live-in girlfriends and said she was forced to have group sex up to five times a day.

“I think that there’s hundreds of victims out there,” she told the publication.

“Robert has his live-in girlfriends, he has girlfriends in every city. He has flings in every city.”

Clary said she was often abused by Kelly, detailing one incident where he beat her with a shoe until she was “covered in welts”.

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R. Kelly's former girlfriends Azriel Clary and Joycelyn Savage in 2019. Image: Getty.

Prior to this interview, Clary has always maintained Kelly's innocence. In March 2019 she, and Kelly's other girlfriend Joycelyn Savage, told Gayle King on CBS This Morning that they were in a loving relationship with the singer. Looking back, she admits she was "very naive and very brainwashed".

"I definitely do believe that I was very naive and very brainwashed and manipulated by him," she said. "And as much as I hate to say it I'm woman enough and I'm grown enough to admit that yes, I was brainwashed and yes, I was manipulated. And yes, this man did have me wrapped around his finger. If he would have told me to jump, I would have said, 'how high?'"

Clary also detailed how Kelly blackmailed his victims to prevent them from speaking out.

“For the most part he blackmails everyone. He makes everyone do very degrading stuff, whether on film or writing it down, he makes them sign it," she told The Sun.

“There's so much stuff. He has letters of people saying that they've stolen from him.

“He has letters from people saying that they've been molested or touched by their parents or their brothers or a family member.

“He even has people on film molesting their younger nieces or younger brothers."


Although she was never placed in that situation, Clary confirmed she had "seen it done to other women".

“And so I know a lot of women out there are too embarrassed, humiliated, and ashamed to come out because this man had that much power to control them, to make them molest their younger niece or to molest their younger brother," she said.

“Personally had I ever done anything like that, I would be entirely too ashamed to come forward. Thankfully, I've never been in that situation. But have I seen it done to other women? Yes, I have.”

In a statement to People, Kelly's attorney Steve Greenberg denied Clary's claims.

"We are shocked to learn that Ms. Clary is making these allegations. They are false. What she now says is directly contrary to truth, and the facts that have been brought forward by Ms. Clary in the past.

“It is also directly contrary to what we expect to be the proof. As with other ‘accusers’, the lack of proof and their past actions impeach them.

"In sum, Ms. Clary had a long-term consensual relationship with Mr. Kelly. It continued after he was arrested, when she was free to do as she wished."


In January, Lifetime aired shocking six-part documentary Surviving R. Kelly.

The documentary series saw multiple women accuse the singer of sexual abuse, physical abuse and even starving them.

The series, which is now available to stream on Netflix, features 52 interviews from abuse survivors and people from Kelly’s inner circle coming forward with new allegations against the singer.

The series also detailed all the allegations against the singer to date, including many of those mentioned above.

On January 18, Kelly's record company RCA dropped him as an artist following the release of the documentary.

In February, R Kelly was charged with 10 counts of sexual abuse. He was arrested after turning himself in to the police.

Authorities confirmed the charges were in relation to four victims, with at least three of them being minors.

In March, R Kelly denied sexual assault charges against him in a heated interview with CBS This Morning co-host Gayle King

In his first interview since the indictment, Gayle King asked Kelly about allegations that he had sex with women under 18 and that he was physically and verbally abusive.


"Not true," the Grammy-winning singer responded in a clip of the interview played on the CBS Evening News

The singer grew angry and emotional as the interview went on, turning to make his argument directly to the camera. "That's stupid. Use your common sense," he said.

On the same day the interview aired, Kelly was arrested once again for failing to pay his ex-wife Andrea Kelly more than $160,000 in child support. He was later released when an unidentified person paid this sum for him.

In May 2019 the singer was charged with an additional 11 new counts of sexual assault against a teenage victim. Kelly was then arrested and placed in custody on further charges of sex trafficking two months later in July.

Despite this, he's continued to maintain his innocence.


In 2018, the #MuteRKelly campaign was launched in an effort to encourage record label RCA to cut ties with Kelly.

The campaign also called on streaming services including Spotify, Pandora and Apple Music to remove his music from their playlists.

In the same year, the singer was also sued by a former partner who claimed he infected her with an STD intentionally.

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R Kelly. Image: Getty.


In 2017, Buzzfeed published a report accusing the singer of trapping young women in a 'sex cult'.

The allegations came from the parents of several women and three former employees of Kelly.

Kelly has since denied the allegations.

Following the release of Buzzfeed's report, Jerhona Pace spoke out about having sex with Kelly when she was underage.

Another woman, Kittie Jones, also alleged the star had physically abused her and coerced her into a sexual relationship.


In 2005, Kelly's second wife Andrea Kelly was granted an emergency protective order against Kelly after she alleged he physical abused, harassed and stalked her.

Andrea, who has three kids with the singer, married the star in 1996.

The pair separated in 2005 as Andrea filed for a restraining order.


In 2002, Kelly was sued by two more women.

Chicago woman Patrice Jones claimed the singer impregnated her when she was underage. She was later forced to have an abortion.

Another woman, Montina Woods, alleged Kelly had videotaped them having sex without her knowledge or consent.


Both cases were settled out of court and non-disclosure agreements were issued to both women.

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The allegations have continued to build for years. Image: Getty.

Later on in the year, Kelly was charged with 21 counts of making child pornography when he was accused of filming a minor participating in a number of sex acts – including one scene where a woman was reportedly urinated on.

The jury eventually found the singer not guilty, as they were unable to prove whether the girl videoed was underage.

Not long after, he was charged with another further 12 counts of making child pornography when police seized a camera at Kelly's property which reportedly showed Kelly having sex with a minor.

The charges were later dropped as Kelly's defence team argued that police didn't have enough evidence to justify searching his property.


In 2001, R Kelly was sued by Tracy Sampson, an intern at Epic Records, who claimed he induced her into a sexual relationship with him when she was underage.

"He often tried to control every aspect of my life including who I would see and where I would go," Tracy said, according to court documents.


In 1996, Tiffany Hawkins sued R Kelly for "emotional distress" during a lengthy relationship with the performer.


According to court documents, Tiffany began having sex with R Kelly in 1991, when she was just 15. Kelly was 24 at the time.


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In 1994, R Kelly married 15-year-old singer Aaliyah. Image: Getty.

In 1994, at 27 years old, R Kelly married 15-year-old singer Aaliyah.

The illicit relationship was first exposed when Vibe magazine published a copy of a marriage certificate, which showed the pair had wed in Illinois on August 31 1994. The document stated that Aaliyah was 18 years old at the time, when she was in fact just 15.

Speaking on the documentary, R. Kelly’s former personal assistant, Demetrius Smith, claimed to be present for the ceremony: “I’m not proud of that. I had papers forged for them when Aaliyah was underage. It was just a quick little ceremony. She didn’t have on a white dress. He didn’t have on a tux. Just everyday wear. She looked worried and scared.”

Smith claimed the marriage was annulled by her parents the following year.

It's believed Aaliyah cut personal and professional ties with R Kelly after the annulment. She refused to speak publicly about the relationship in the years that followed.

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