When you’re a teenager you don’t really envision being a mum of a teen yourself, let alone raising teens alongside the very teens you grew up with.
But this is what’s happened with two of my special girlfriends and the seven kids between us. All three of us lead such busy mum lives that we’re not actually a part of each other’s daily grind, but for the last 30 years we’ve remained close friends, and we catch up as often as we can. Our kids even fight like siblings, so I guess you can say we’re like family.
The reason I believe we’ve stayed such good friends is that we’re bonded by a colourful and humorous past, which is best left in the past.
From our own teen experiences with too much Passion Pop and parties all those years ago, we have now miraculously settled down and had our own mini me’s. And with our kids about to embark on similar journeys all I can think is good grief…
But there is one huge difference between our teen lives and theirs, one that really sets us apart – and that is their access to social media. Instagram, Snapchat, Tik Tok, YouTube; you name it, they’ve got it.
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How many of us pre-mobile-phone-era people sweat at the thought of our more regrettable moments being captured on camera? I shiver at the notion.
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The comment about how your children wear the same thing but you're worried about it being as an accessible photo kinda threw me.. Does it not bother you as a parent that your children are wearing these outfits and people are looking anyway?
I do understand the dangers of social media, just as I understand that wearing clothing just as revealing in public can come upon just as much scrutiny. It's strange to me to say it's not okay to photograph and yet still allow your children to walk around in the same clothing.
Context is key, I think.
All photos can be altered and changed and screenshotted to be whatever you want them to be. Are you saying no photos (specifically of children) should be put on social media at all or are you specifically referring to this photo? I ask because I would agree that children shouldn't be posting photos of themselves on the internet at all(regardless of clothing) , just like parents should be wary of posting photos of their children as well.
The problem this group of parents in the article seem to have is a still of a girl in clothes they let their children wear anyway. Is that the only concern you have also or are you concerned about all photos?
Referring back to my original comment about the clothing, I am sure we have heard of up skirting? While this is an extreme example, unfortunately people do walk around and photograph others, it shouldnt happen, but it does. It also means to me that I can’t trust anyone, and if I can’t trust anyone I need to take precaution when doing things, even if it means being concerned about what I or my children wear. The reality is we don’t live in a perfect society - online or in real life - and you can argue til your face is blue that you should be allowed to wear whatever you want, show as much skin as you want and no one should so much as bat an eyelid, but you’d be kidding yourself.
Yes the girls are sending photos, and the young boys are also having to navigate this 'intriguing' world of images. Spare a thought for the young male teens out there who often get branded with doing the wrong thing, but they have an immature frontal lobe just like the young girls and also need guidance and encouragement to use these platforms appropriately. What young boy EVER turned his head the other way when images of pretty girls were available to view. Try to keep perspective of the fact that it is all our young people who struggle with this, not just girls.