Lena Dunham – we get it.
A lot of us have been crushed recently, learning that men that we’ve admired are being accused of terrible crimes. A lot of us didn’t want to believe that our beloved Chuck Bass, aka Ed Westwick, could do criminal things to women. It must be even harder to accept when you have a working relationship with someone – or worse – a real friendship.
So it makes sense that when Lena Dunham’s friend was accused of sexual assault, she wanted to say something. She made a public statement in defence of her friend Murray Miller, that cast doubt on the veracity of the allegations he faces.
It was a surprising move – but very human, too. Many of us do this sort of thing all the time, when we don’t want to believe.
“She’s leaving him? What does she have to be unhappy about? Her husband is lovely!”
“My child would never let someone else take the blame for something. He always tells the truth.”
But we also have to accept that you never really know anyone. Good people can do bad things – and, if we’re honest with ourselves, that includes us.
Of course, there are degrees of bad. There’s crappy behaviour, and there’s criminal actions. And this is the bit that sucks when you see someone you believe in accused of a crime:
It’s not up to us to decide the difference. That’s for the police to investigate, the lawyers to defend, and the law to decide.
Which is why, when we’re talking about potential criminal actions, we have to be very careful with what we say. That responsibility is heightened when you have a huge, international platform like Lena Dunham, and have 5.71 million Twitter followers.
To some extent, Dunham’s comments were laughable. She used the term “insider knowledge” – because, you guys, she’s, like, in the “in crowd”, and we’re not. And then there was her problematic about-face from August’s tweet: “Things women do lie about: what they ate for lunch. Things women don’t lie about: rape”, to “this accusation is one of the 3 per cent of assault cases that are misreported every year” when defending her friend.
Things women do lie about: what they ate for lunch. Things women don’t lie about: rape.
— ???? Lena Dunham ???? (@lenadunham) August 4, 2017