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Midwives share the worst behaviour they’ve seen from partners in the birth suite.

If you're one of those whimsical creatures who has experienced birthing a human, you'll probably tell us it ain't a walk in the park. Because more often than not, the whole labour thing is a little... intense.

And you know the last thing one needs when going through labour? An annoying partner. Someone who is getting around the delivery room doing/saying approximately all the wrong things.

And while you'd hope it wouldn't be a common thing that happens - a viral TikTok clip has confirmed that yes, there is in fact an ABUNDANCE of inappropriate behaviour going on in the delivery room.

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The popular post was shared by Australian midwife Tylah Jane and her midwife friend (cute!), which detailed some of the absolute WORST behaviour they've come across. 

And it's... A LOT.

"It's when he misses the birth to validate the parking ticket for me," the first midwife said in the clip.

Her friend then adds, "It's when he scrolls through his phone the whole time during labour for me."

Our personal favourite? "Trying to put a cap on the baby while it's crowning.."

WHILE IT'S CROWNING.

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The midwives continued to call out some of their biggest pet peeves throughout the clip, from partners asking when the stretch marks will go away, to doing a poo in the hospital toilet... with the door open.

Sigh.

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One of the midwives said one man even slipped off to the pub during labour ¯\_(ツ)_/¯, while another asked if his wife's vagina would "go back to normal" while it was being sutured. 

Grrr...

Check out the whole clip below:

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We asked a bunch of midwives to tell us some more of the worst behaviour they've seen from partners in the delivery room. 

Here's what they said:

Saying they're tired while their wife is in labour.

"The partners who complain about how tired they are! Never goes down well." - Jenny.

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Going in between two delivery rooms.

"The time I had a dad going between his wife AND his girlfriend’s birthing room! Yep - true story." - Jenny.

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Eating food that's... not meant for them.

"I’m a midwife and RN. When I had my first son I was in labour overnight. When my breakfast arrived in the morning (I wasn’t able to eat it), I looked up and here was my husband sitting up on the recliner chair eating bacon and eggs watching The Today Show saying ‘You don’t mind, I might as well eat this babe?’" - Andrea.

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Not knowing what a vagina actually looks like.

"Dads often have no idea there [are] more than two holes down there. They really don’t know vaginas!" - Jenny.

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Asking for their mum to be in the room.

"Some [partners] have wanted their mother - the mother-in-law - to come into the delivery room. I always try to advocate and avoid that one (except if the woman genuinely wants this). Some just don’t understand that you don’t want your MIL seeing your bits, etc." - Andrea.

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Getting naked in the birth pool.

"My midwife explained the birth pool process to us and then reminded us that clothes for dad whilst in the pool were a must. We sort of nodded and said, "Well, yeah" and she said she'd had a partner naked in there while the woman was birthing." - Jem.

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"Our midwife told us the same thing at our birthing class. She said that none of the nurses need to see a naked man and if dad wanted to be in the pool, he needed to bring some boardies with him to the hospital." - Kate.

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Using the happy gas.

"I walked in on a dad with his mouth over the entenox (happy gas) outlet on the wall, having a wonderful time." - Amy.

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Getting naked in front of staff.

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"I found a dad “helping” his partner in the shower, but forgot to leave his pants on. Not really bad behaviour but certainly not considerate of the poor midwives who copped an eyeful of things we just aren’t prepared to see in our job! Vaginas, breasts and baby penises - fine, but grown man bits… NO THANKS." - Amy.

Thinking his wife's cold flannel was for him.

"This is my husband's cousin's story, but when she was birthing, the midwife came in with a flannel for her head and her husband misinterpreted it, took it and said, “Thank you. Didn’t think anyone was thinking of me”, before he proceeded to place it on his head and lie back. His mother-in-law gave him a swift backhand to the head!"

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Fainting during labour.

"The biggest fainters are often the biggest blokes. We always had a chair ready for them to hopefully fall into - it’s such a pain when you have to call for help when a partner is sprawled out on the floor." - Andrea.

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Do you have any delivery room stories you'd like to share? Pop them in the comment section below.

Feature image: TikTok/midwife_tylah.