Commenting on how a woman's body looks is never really okay.
Speculating on the size and shape of a woman's tummy and questioning whether she is pregnant? Well, this is particularly cruel when you know she is having fertility issues.
Kourtney Kardashian is the latest in a long line of female celebrities to have her stomach publically scrutinised after wearing a fitted black dress to the Oscars with fiancé Travis Barker.
A Twitter user commented, “Am I the only one who thinks Kourtney Kardashian looks pregnant in her Oscars [sic] pics?" while someone else helpfully tweeted, "Kourtney Kardashian is 200 percent pregnant [sic]. She’s never had that big of a belly. Maybe it's just happy weight idk.”
What makes these and countless other tweets, as well as news articles, even more invasive is that the couple have recently shared their decision to go through IVF.
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For thirty-four-year-old teacher Anna, the speculation and questioning around her tummy and fertility began shortly after she got married, three years ago.
"I work in a catholic school and as soon as I got married, the questions about whether we were 'trying' for a baby began," Anna says.
"People would obsessively watch to see if I was drinking coffee at school or alcohol on nights out. If I wore loose clothing I would get questions like, 'what are you hiding under that top?'"
"There was one friend who I felt quite anxious to see," Anna recalls.
"I ended up bursting into tears on one occasion. It was too much and that person just didn't understand the gravity of what they were asking."
While it was mostly older women at work who made the comments, Anna says in some cases it was friends and even their partners who would directly ask about pregnancy in social situations.
When she started IVF, she eventually had to ask certain people to just stop.
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Thirty-one-year-old Leanne*, who recently got engaged, started her IVF journey in July 2021.
"I’ve had three failed IVF cycles and the questions and speculations about my fertility never end," Leanne says.