Sometimes long-term relationships can feel like a bit of a slog. The things that were rather adorable at the start of the courtship manage to irrationally irritate you. It can be a challenge going from sorting the logistics like kid pickups and who is putting out the bins to then jumping each other's bones in the bedroom.
When we are falling in love, there is an endorphin increase that literally makes our palms sweat, our cheeks flush and our hearts pitter-patter. It can feel impossible to keep your mitts off each other and you truly believe you will feel like that forever. Then our bodies get used to the pleasure stimulants and the overwhelming initial intensity of all those feelings fade. Whatta bugger. That is when the effort and work in a relationship really need to kick in.
My partner and I always have the grand intentions of doing weekly date nights, we even chat about just taking a stroll together without the kids. We end up doing this once and then life gets in the way and it's the first thing to be scrapped from the calendar. Why oh why do we put our most beloved to the end of the line? I remember Keith Urban and Nicole Kidman saying how they tell their kids they love each other the most; they said it makes the kids feel safe that their security blanket is thick as thieves. I like this idea in principle but saying it and acting it are two different things.
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