In a series of stories examining fertility, Mamamia talks to women, couples and experts about what it means to struggle to conceive.
Rebecca and Marcus O’Leary are proud parents to two-year-old Vivienne, and Rebecca is 15 weeks pregnant with their second child through IVF.
From the outside, it might seem that they have the perfect little family, yet their journey to reach this point has been anything but easy.
Rebecca chats to Mamamia about the “rollercoaster ride” of IVF, and shares what she’s learnt from the process.
“Initially we were told we needed IVF straight away so we sought a second opinion,” Rebecca shares. “We chose to undergo further testing as we knew once the IVF door was opened, we couldn’t easily close it.
“Marcus was nervous, wondering if it was his ‘fault’ we couldn’t conceive. I could see the weight lift from his shoulders when he found out his sperm count was fantastic…
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‘We discovered I was the one with the fertility issue.’
“Eventually I was diagnosed with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) meaning I was the one with the fertility issue. I felt enormous pressure to manage my condition, body and the process as best I could.”
The couple began with ovulation tracking to monitor Rebecca’s monthly cycle. They then moved on to ovulation induction (OI) which meant regular blood tests, ultrasounds and medication.
‘Sex started to feel clinical.’
“After I received the go-ahead to self-inject the ‘trigger medication’ to bring on ovulation, we had to go home and have as much sex as possible. It was fun at first but it soon felt clinical and over orchestrated.
“Marcus was always positive and supportive but he wasn’t the one with three apps on his phone undergoing all this regular monitoring. It was hard to not let the resentment creep in.