I’ve always said mouths are great for lots of things in bed, but the most important of them all is talking.
Second most important: knowing when to zip your lips.
There are some sex sentences that should never, ever be said – especially not in the heat of the moment. Like…
“Did you just have an orgasm?”
This sparks immediate paranoia because it makes us feel that we should have been noisier and more dramatic to make it obvious.
Truth is, for every person who moans and groans and makes a lot of noise, there’s another person who goes deadly quiet. Silence doesn’t mean it wasn’t enjoyable.
If you’re a woman saying this to a man, you can add extra insult points because he thinks you should be able to feel if he’s fully aroused or it’s all over Rover. (Is it so small, she can’t tell the difference?)
“You’ve turned me on, now you have to finish me off.”
Often followed by snide references to being a ‘prick teaser’, this is a favourite with teenagers (the whole ‘blue balls’ thing) but older men sometimes drag it out as well.
There are some very good reasons why this isn’t on.
First up, if someone says they don’t want to continue having sex, you must accept that no matter what their reasons.
It’s called consent.
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Forcing your partner to continue having sex simply because you aren’t ready for it to finish yet, is having sex without their consent.
Second good reason: lots of people in long-term relationships agree to start having some type of sexual activity to see if they can get in mood for sex. Stimulation often leads to arousal.