While you are unlikely to know for sure if a friend or someone you meet has narcissistic personality disorder, there are some useful red flags that a person has narcissistic traits and may not be a good friendship match for you. There is also a huge range among people with narcissistic traits, some people may have other wonderful qualities, whereas other people may be far more draining, toxic, and/or difficult to deal with. In addition, some of these traits may be more obvious at first, and others may not be as observable until you know the person better.

Red Flags That A Potential Friend Has Narcissistic Traits:

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While you are unlikely to know for sure if someone has narcissistic personality disorder, there are certainly observable red flags that a person has narcissistic traits. Some of these traits may bother some people more than others, and it does not mean a person does not have other wonderful traits that might be appealing to you. It’s important to notice for yourself, how you feel around this person, how sensitive you may or may not feel in relation to their narcissistic behaviors, and whether or not this feels like a friendship worth pursuing.

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Karen Arluck is a psychotherapist in private practice in NYC and Long Island.