It was an awesome summer for her…as she looked back on the Facebook memories, she saw pictures of them lovingly huddled together on the pontoon boat in red life vests when it was 55 degrees on the water during a crisp early summer Colorado morning.
There are pictures of her and the three kids sweltering in the midwest heat in front of a fountain at the Botanical Gardens while visiting her parents, the kids’ grandparents, in her hometown in June.
And her favorite of all was the picture montage of her with her 9-year old son. He begged her to order kid and adult sized t-shirts from his favorite Youtuber so they could “match” over the 4th of July weekend, as they spent together as a family in the Rocky Mountains.
He was hugging her around the waist as both were laughing hysterically in the red t-shirts, while he tried to lift her off the floor for one of the poses. They ended up in a giggling heap on the ground after the photos were snapped.
It truly was the summer of love 2017 for my client, so much so that she had recently let their nanny of two years go with gratitude and completion (the nanny had been with them during the time of the tough transition of divorce, and had been a huge help in supporting them as they established new routines and roles in the new home).
She said that it finally felt like “We had healed and were a strong unit and ready to move on together. The school year was starting soon, and we collectively shared the feeling of ‘we got
And then her narcissistic ex dropped a bomb on all of
Maybe he knew that. Maybe the kids behaved too joyfully after coming home from one of the summer weeks with her. Perhaps he caught wind of the presence of her new boyfriend who had been spending time with her and the on some of their summer adventures. Or maybe it was the impending Hearing for Contempt, the fifth one she had to file, for his refusal to pay Family Support.
It was the kids’ 2nd week of school when she got the email from my narcissistic ex. “The kids don’t want to see you for dinner this week. They are scared to be with you so they are requesting not to see you.”
Because she had experience with these types of emails in the past, most specifically timed around any court action on enforce the divorce decree, she brushed off his words and assured him that everything was fine and that she would be picking the kids up later that day to exercise her mid-week dinner with them.
What ensued over the next seven days was nothing less than a parent’s worst nightmare thanks to her narcissistic ex.
In short, he told the story that she was an abusive mother to everyone who would listen. Not only the children but their schools, child protective services, his attorney…all in the attempt to keep the children from spending time with her.