This week I got sent an unsolicited photo of a man’s penis.
It was sent via Instagram from a man I don’t know. He sent a message saying hello; I didn’t reply and then he sent me a photo of his penis.
It wasn’t exactly an original move, but, as always, jarring and unpleasant.
I have a theory that men only send unsolicited photos of their penises for two main reasons; to seduce you or scare you. Sometimes they are aiming for both, but it is always gross.
I’ve been sent enough dick pics in my life to be unsurprised by the one I received this week, but it still always gets under my skin.
The entitlement some men feel to just force their body onto you via the internet or your phone constantly shocks me.
Interestingly, when I shared this story with a male friend, his reaction wasn’t to berate the stranger on the internet but rather to pose the rather horrible question, “Do you think it’s because you write about sex?” As if somehow he needed to find a logical reason for why a man would act like this, as I must have brought this onto myself.
Of course, I know that isn’t the answer because plenty of my more conservative and less prolific friends have been sent unwanted photo of men’s penises.
It has nothing to do with me and everything to do with them.
Still, because I’m an outspoken women that writes about my life for online publications, people constantly want to place the blame back onto me.