My mother and I have worked hard to create the amazing relationship we have today. She truly is my best friend and looking back I can see she did her best to raise her four children, as I am doing my best to raise my three children. That didn’t stop me from blaming her for absolutely everything during my teenage years, especially when she used to nag me.
“Turn the lights off.”
“Eat your dinner.”
“Do your homework.”
“Look after your brother.”
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Now there’s a study that claims “nagging mums” (thanks Mum!) result in more successful daughters. The study by the University of Essex in England found girls with nagging mothers are more likely to go on to tertiary education, earn more, are less likely to be unemployed, will partner with someone successful and are less likely to fall pregnant outside of a steady relationship.
Does this mean all mums have to become naggers, or is this an excellent reason to continue to blame our mothers for our failures well beyond our teenage years. Because we don’t torture them enough…
“WHY DID YOU SUPPORT AND NURTURE ME SO MUCH. I AM A COMPLETE FAILURE BECAUSE OF YOU.”
“The key word is boundaries,” says Dr. Amanda Mullin, Doctor of Clinical Psychology/Clinical Psychologist and Director of Mindworx Psychology.
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