When Alanya Kolberg went to her local park with her young son Carson, she noticed something rather peculiar.
Carson had three toys on him. Within minutes, six boys had approached, demanding he share his toys with him, notably disappointed when he was visibly overwhelmed and clutched the toys to his chest.
“You can tell them no, Carson,” she told him. “Just say no. You don’t have to say anything else.”
After receiving what she calls some ‘dirty looks’ from other parents, Alanya Kolberg wrote on Facebook to clarify one thing: No, her child doesn’t have to share with yours.
In a post that has since been liked more than 200,000 times and shared almost just as much, Kolberg covers one of the great taboos when it comes to parenting little children.
“If I, an adult, walked into the park eating a sandwich, am I required to share my sandwich with strangers in the park? No! Would any well-mannered adult, a stranger, reach out to help themselves to my sandwich, and get huffy if I pulled it away? No again,” she wrote.
“So really, while you’re giving me dirty looks, presumably thinking my son and I are rude, whose manners are lacking here? The person reluctant to give his 3 toys away to 6 strangers, or the 6 strangers demanding to be given something that doesn’t belong to them, even when the owner is obviously uncomfortable?”
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I've got a cousin 2 years older whose mother taught him he doesn't have to share among other things as her reasoning was adults don't have to. At now 36 he has no friends, never had a partner and still lives at home with mummy and shows no interest in anyone but himself. I'm bringing up my 2 kids to encourage sharing as it's part of life. I completely understand and agree with the author kids shouldn't be expected to share their personal toys with random strangers and can see this lady was clearly encouraging sharing with her friends kids. There was no need for the name calling and the angry rant though, there's millions of kids around the world going hungry - first world problems..
When my kids were very young I took them to the lagoon with some buckets and spades and toys that I had bought especially for my kids to play with.
The mother of a young child helped herself to the toys for her own son. I let him play with them for a while and then retrieved them so my own son could play with his own toys.
The mother of the boy was very rude to me and told me how dare I take the toys off her son and that he was enjoying playing with them!
I told her they were our own personal toys and next time maybe she should bring her own.
We packed up and left.
Yes. There are certainly some entitled parents and children out there!