“Why can’t she look where she is going?”, I would wonder before laughing with a friend about how much space those pesky pre-schoolers take up.
Now I have had a couple of kids of my own, I feel embarrassed by my old judgemental ways, and I whole heartedly apologise to any mum I pram-shamed while walking unburdened by anything more than a teeny-tiny shoulder bag after a full night of blessed sleep.
In light of my bad old ways, and all the eye-rolls I have since received, here are some facts to help other pram-haters understand what it is like for us stroller-pushing mamas:
1. Prams are ginormous and this isn’t our fault.
They might keep baby safe and snug, and be quite smooth to push up and down wonky kerbs and over grass and bark chips, but most modern prams and strollers are still large, unwieldy beasts.
There are are the long three-wheeled types with their huge tyres, made for fit parents who want to take their little ones on a run; the smart and sleek city strollers with side luggage compartments to hold valuables, snacks, or discarded toys; and the double or triple decker strollers, made for parents who deserve medals for just exiting the house fully clothed.
If you don’t want to slip a spinal disc by carrying baby everywhere, and you want to get outside, parents need to use a pram and it is not our fault that the good ones are so very roomy.
2. If you want to stay sane and meet a friend, you double in size.
If while stroller pushing your toddler, you also want to meet a friend for a much-needed coffee and a chat, then suddenly you have two or three of these mega kiddy chariots in a row, and there are only certain cafes and pathways that can accommodate your needs.
It is no wonder that sometimes, just sometimes, the occasional passer-by gets their ankle unintentionally knocked. I try to use my baby sling if I know I’m meeting a few others mums or dads of tots, but it isn’t always possible.
We also try to meet at kid-friendly cafes with decent floor space and if possible, pram parking.