I was the only woman in a work meeting recently, where a man told a mildly sexist joke. Nothing overt that you could be disciplined for, but something tired about his wife being a nagging shew. My face must have given my feelings away, because he quickly said:
“I couldn’t say that in most meetings, but you’re cool, right?”
I wasn’t, nor do I wish to be. Being the ‘cool girl’ has long been a tool used to control women and turn misogyny inward. It pits women against each other – much like the poisonous idea of ‘not being like other girls’.
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But, it seems, there’s always a handful of women willing to throw themselves into the volcano of internalised misogyny for the sake of being popular with a certain sub-set of the boys. The latest YouTuber to enjoy this type of viral attention is Pearl Davis, a proudly ‘anti-feminist’ influencer and fan of Andrew Tate, who reckons women shouldn’t be allowed to vote.
Andrew Tate is known for his misogynistic views, including that women are men’s property and that they must ‘bear responsibility’ for their own rape, but he’s currently locked up in a Romanian jail on charges of sex trafficking (charges he denies), so there was a Tate-sized internet gap just waiting to be filled.