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mamamia-user-893622181 January 21, 2021

@rush I get that but pasta and cereal?!

mamamia-user-893622181 January 21, 2021

These are just for social media. Does anyone honestly need to label a clear container so people can work out what the contents are?  

mamamia-user-893622181 January 17, 2021

@km dating can involve texting but there's a big difference between willingly giving someone your number and them lifting it for their own purposes. It's all about consent. Had he asked and gotten a 'no' and accepted it, a line wouldn't have been crossed. An employee in a business started contacting me once without consent. It got to the point where I had to look into a restraining order (I didn't feel safe blocking him as I lived around the corner from the business and the messages were quite frankly rapey and I wanted a heads up if he saw me out and about). This went on for 2 years despite repeated requests for him to delete my number until I moved interstate and blocked him. 

mamamia-user-893622181 January 17, 2021

Agree 100%. Others not saying anything or dismissing it as "boys will be boys" and me being over sensitive made me think I had the problem and that it was normal. Speak up. 

mamamia-user-893622181 January 12, 2021

Wow, this hit home. It wasn't until I found the strength to leave my ex (a relationship which has trigger depression, anxiety and PTSD in me) that I realised dealing with a mental illness isn't justification for deliberately hurting those closest to you. My ex was also conveniently able to switch it on and off with his public persona enormously different to what I experienced at home. I wish that this was discussed so much more. Had I known, I would have left much sooner.

mamamia-user-893622181 January 10, 2021

Some of this seems a bit harsh. If people are committed elsewhere that can't be helped and ditto needing to pull out for reasons such as moving. Some stuff like that can't be put on hold due to landlords, finances, etc

mamamia-user-893622181 January 7, 2021

There's never a reason to justify cheating. If you care that much about your kids then leave your husband

mamamia-user-893622181 January 3, 2021

If you haven't already done so, please get tested. You don't know how many others he has done this to. I understand not reporting it but please consider it. What he did was horrific and unasked for. Freezing is a common response. Lastly, talk to a professional who can help you work through this.

mamamia-user-893622181 December 29, 2020

@jonsully it's easy to say that but this kind of behaviour starts slowly and in increments (like taking a shower and the water is too hot. You acclimatise and it becomes normal)

mamamia-user-893622181 December 27, 2020

I don't think this is anything about being a mum - you're either a friend or your not. Even when you can't physically be present as a friend, you can have a discussion as to why. I don't have kids but recognise the struggles many of my friends with kids have had - including parenting children with a disability - but if I had something huge going on something to indicate they cared would be nice - a text, a card, etc doesn't take much time but lets someone know that you're thinking of them. 

mamamia-user-893622181 December 17, 2020

@cat sadly not. Social media is also rife with it. I don't understand how organisations like PornHub are able to get away with this for so long; profiting off the abuse is no better than the abuse itself. I hope the lawsuit bankrupts them with personal liability for the decision makers

mamamia-user-893622181 December 5, 2020

Thank you so much for this article. Unfortunately people see things far too often and say nothing. This makes them as culpable. I don't blame the victims, the stigma is real, but people need to be braver about stepping up and pointing out when something is wrong. A moment of discomfort can save someone else a lifetime of grief

mamamia-user-893622181 November 28, 2020

I have a lot of male friends but this has huge red flags all over it for me. Texting 100 times a day and hiding the extent of your relationship from your partners is unhealthy and they have every reason to be concerned. 

mamamia-user-893622181 November 24, 2020

As someone who has been in a relationship with coercive control and now experiences ptsd and anxiety as a result, it needs to be criminalised. If we're not willing to look at the impact on people then perhaps the loss in productivity, spend in healthcare, etc may be more incentive for Governments to act 

mamamia-user-893622181 November 21, 2020

We'll done for acknowledging you're not experts in the area. This is a time to seek external support - a psychologist who can talk to him about healthy behaviours and attitudes. It may be worth attending also attending some sessions yourself with your ex to assess the best way to support him moving past these viewpoints

mamamia-user-893622181 November 6, 2020

This was painful to read and to be honest, both parents sound toxic for the kids. Better off making a call than leaving the kids in a house with that atmosphere festering.

mamamia-user-893622181 November 2, 2020

Breeding is a huge issue but the racing industry needs to be putting more effort into re-educating racehorses for other purposes before rehoming them. So many go to inexperienced homes with no knowledge of anything but racing and it's a bad combo for the horses and riders. Look at Scott Brodie for someone going a great job in educating them for other styles of riding. 

mamamia-user-893622181 September 21, 2020

@sobrien78 it's apparently a really common issue. I'm hoping everything evens out soon! Are you finding HH is helping at all?

mamamia-user-893622181 September 21, 2020

I stopped after 14 years because I wanted to know if the reasons I started taking it (irregular periods) were still an issue. My anxiety has actually increased off it and three months in, I'm still trying to find a solution to the nightmare that is my hair. My scalp is super dry and my hair is an oil slick by the end of the day 😭

mamamia-user-893622181 August 30, 2020

I can understand if it was further in the relationship but a weekend followed by 2 months of being strung along with no face-to-face contact (after lying about his job and father)...this seems a bit far-fetched 

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