Every parent knows it takes a village to raise a child, but that sometimes the village isn’t always entirely behind your decisions.
Take, for example, kids lolly bags at birthday parties. The topic may seem innocent enough, but in Parent Land, it’s politically fraught – so fraught, in fact, that it could be the topic of the next movie in the Bad Moms movie franchise: Bad Moms: Party Bag Problems.
Yeah, it’s that divisive.
So we’ve taken the time to break down this important topic for you, to help you the next time you need to deal with one.
Pro-Party Bag People – old school style.
These are the parents whom, much like this author, love it when their kids get not just party bags, but lolly bags (that contain tonnes of calories, harkening from a time when we ate sugar with abandon). The reason? They intend to consume some/most/all of the confectionary content.
It could happen on the drive home from the party, when the child guest has crashed from a sugar rush after eating party food.
Or it could happen when sneaky parents (again, like the author), say things like, “I’ll just have a taste to make sure it’s not poisoned.”
Whatever the tactic, this pro-party lolly bag parent sees this loot as their rightful dues after being forced to take their child to the (usually alcohol-free) party in the first place.
And, to exactly no-one’s surprise, this parent is usually confronted about missing contents in an awkward showdown with their child/the other parent who was hoping to get something to eat, too.
Pro-Party Bag People – 2018-style.
These are the parents who believe in the tradition of after-party gifts, but are sensible (unlike this author). They love to have fun, and believe in parties – but see no reason why even more chemically-created concoctions need to be had after the event.
Some are even quite vocal about their wish for their children to be plied with extra sugar and fat after two hours of fairy bread and mini sausage rolls – and this is where the tension comes in.
They can refuse to let their child take a bag at the end. And they can be annoyed with the organising parent for putting them in a position where they have to choose and/or deal with a sugar crash later.
If a parent is upset enough, resentments are created, and sides are taken. The social cost can be enormous – for the kids and the parents. And the school’s Parents and Friends Association.
We are not even exaggerating.