This article deals with issues of child abuse and may be triggering to some readers. The author of this post is known to Mamamia but has chosen to remain anonymous for privacy reasons.
The man you married, had three beautiful daughters with, the man you’ve spent your life with – has just been revealed to be a child molester. The offences took place over a period of five years, 20 years ago.
You had no idea.
It happened under the same roof you were living under.
You had no idea.
It happened to your daughter.
You had no idea…
This horrifying, sinister information is tearfully revealed to you years later, by your daughter, who is done trying to keep it a secret. She wants to heal. She wants to speak out about it. She wants to stop dealing with it on her own. She wants her mother. She wants to be told she is loved and that it’s okay. She wants to stop playing happy families when she is so deeply hurt, traumatised and unhappy.
Side note – we lose one woman every week in Australia to domestic violence, but that’s just the tip of a very grim iceberg. Post continues after video.
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More common than we think in Australian households
Having been raised in a religious cult, I know the power of 'undissolvable'' marriages and predators and paedophile men that cover their crimes in the name of God. Women are raised as enablers in religion for these men. I believe child abuse, incest and sexual molestation of minors is a far commoner experience and should be fully discussed. In religious circles if the victim speaks out, or the woman leaves her marriage,,they are the ones that are blamed, Never the men. After I became a single divorced mum in my church, after leaving my physically, mentally, financially, etc abusive husband, I became the target of every fucked up married man in the church. It was like being in a tidal wave. I was physically stalked, did not have the personal right to say no to these men, They just assumed I would say yes to them and be the ecclesial prostitute. Their wives got shitty at me, because they could not dare to tell their husbands to zip their pants up. When I complained I was told there was ''no proof'' despite having many messages unsought, they refused to look at my proof. These men turned up wherever I was, they refused my right to say no, and generally behaved like I had no choice but too accept their sexual overtures. I will never forgive and nor will I ever forget them. I am glad I exposed them before I left.