
In any marriage, there will inevitably be problems. Strange requests, even.
But when this woman’s husband asked her to get Botox, the internet just, how can we put this… lost it.
The woman posted her situation on Reddit, before asking the difficult question: “How do we rebuild what’s broken?”
Let’s start at the beginning.
See, before asking his wife to, erm, tighten her face, he began acting slightly weird around her.
“A little after Xmas he started acting really distant, telling me that something was bothering him but he didn’t want to tell me yet,” the woman explained.
“I begged him to tell me what was wrong… mind you, only after he woke me up in the middle of the night in tears. Very seriously and solemnly he looked in my eyes and quietly asked, ‘Would you consider getting Botox?'”

Initially offended, this woman tried to shrug it off. Multiple times. But she couldn't pretend nothing was wrong when she noticed a dramatic change in her husband's behaviour.
"In my mind, every time he looked at me, he was judging me and thinking I was some hideously wrinkled creature," she said.
"Lately he’s been crying every day, saying it makes him feel better. We’ll have a nice couple of hours and then I’ll notice his mood change. Last night he brought up Botox again, albeit trying to frame it in a lighter, easy-breezy manner. I asked him, what is it specifically that bothers you so much. He said—and I quote—'It f**ks me up to see you smile or laugh.'"
Um, just no. We reject that completely.
"I told him that when I look at him, I see perfection. And why don’t I deserve the same?"
After being questioned as to whether there was perhaps a reason why her husband seemed to have quite controlling tendencies, the woman said his childhood wasn't the easiest experience for him.
"He grew up with divorced parents who were both extremely manipulative IMO (and his), so I chalk a lot of his hypercriticism to childhood trauma and insecurities," she replied.
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I say this without any trace of anger or offense - she needs to get her husband to a mental health professional ASAP! He obviously is in great need of help. It is not normal for a grown man to be crying every day for ANY reason - does he have severe depression? Or something else? Either way he is in dire need of help from someone because something is very very wrong. What he has asked for might (ok, definitely would!) be a cause for offense, but coupled with everything else there is something serious going on with him. What he has asked for is just so very odd in itself, but to be so distressed about it (not angry, or necessarily controlling - crying and distressed!) rings alarm bells to me!
"His childhood wasn't the easiest experience for him." That is no excuse for what he is putting his wife through! I hope she leaves him if he does not get the psychiatric help he needs!