My husband is in the mood for some sexy time and gestures for me to follow him to the bedroom. What’s on the menu tonight, I wonder.
As I lie there waiting, I can hear him shuffling around in his little black bag of tricks.
He seems to stop and make a decision. Soon I hear the sound of his penis pump in action. There’s a popping noise, which I’ve come to understand means he’s done. Turbo dick is ready for action.
In the past few years, my husband has become kinkier than ever. The problem is, I seem to be going the other way.
When we were in our 20s, I was the adventurous one. When a random woman propositioned us for a threesome in London, I said why not?
When the opportunity arose to have sex on a beach in broad daylight in Central America, I jumped on it, literally.
I remember when he was about 27 and I was 24, I asked him why he didn’t have more of a libido and he said sex just wasn’t all that important to him. Wind forward the clock to his 40s and it’s a different story.
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I read that women’s sex drives may be strongest in their 30s and early 40s. A study found women aged between 27 and 45 typically had more frequent and intense sexual fantasies than older women, and more sex in general.