If your children aren’t complaining about the seemingly poisoned, revolting food you’ve made after a long day, how do you even know you’re a parent?
Kids complaining about the food you lovingly prepare for them and force them to eat for your pure evil enjoyment, totally unrelated to giving them sustenance to function, is a common experience 0f parents of young children. But what advice do you give to an older child who wants more control over their diet, yet is held hostage by a parent still prepared to actually cook for them?
This is the situation Bec Sparrow, host of Mamamia podcast Ask Me Anything, was faced with, when she was asked by a young listener;
“How do I tell my mum that I don’t like her cooking?”
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Well, as Bec wisely suggests, if you value your life, you don’t.
Bec advises that this particular listener proceed with caution. She explains that for a lot of parents, it’s exhausting to come up with something that the whole family will like every night.
“I’m a mum, I have three kids, and I hate cooking. It is the bain of my life having to serve up dinner every night.”
She explains that preparing meals isn’t necessarily something many parents want to do, but it’s more of a necessary chore. So if the cuisine isn’t up to the standard a child, who’s obviously old enough to call to ask for advice, wants, they’re probably old enough to effect change at a grassroots level: a.k.a. cook their own dinner.
Bec says, "From the age of ten or twelve, everyone needs to be able to cook one meal."
If that's not possible, and the food is consistently and truly inedible, Bec suggests a "positive, negative, positive" approach. For example:
Positive: "Hey mum, it must be really difficult to cook every night."