A woman threw a party for a milestone birthday...but only three people showed up.


As someone born in the first week of January, I’ve often found it extremely difficult to rally people together for a birthday celebration.

I usually celebrate later in the month instead when everyone’s back from holidays and recovered from their Christmas food coma, or opt for something low-key so not to clash with the back end of the festive season.

Well – one woman in the same boat bravely decided to throw a party between Christmas and New Year, only to be met with the disappointment of having only three people show up. Yes – three.

To make matters worse, it was a milestone birthday, in a venue 500km from the woman’s home.

Posting to Mumsnet, she asked if she was being unreasonable to be “gutted” by the dismal turnout.

“It’s my birthday today, a big one,” she wrote.

“I don’t live in the UK anymore but decided to throw a party back home to celebrate this milestone, with drinks, food and entertainment laid on.

The woman was "humiliated" by the poor turnout to her birthday party.

The mum added that she had organised the birthday bash months in advance, choosing not to celebrate on New Year's Eve - as previous events she'd hosted on this day had been poorly attended in the past.

She went on to describe this year's party attendance as "humiliating".

"So we travel 500km, kids in tow, the evening comes and... 3 people turn up. 3. A few people did message that they/their kids were ill, but plenty of others simply didn't show. It was, quite frankly, humiliating," she wrote.

Her post triggered an influx of support and sympathy - with many wishing her a happy birthday and suggesting she should confront the no-shows.

"How horrible and disappointing. You are amazing and generous throwing a big bash and putting in all effort, and they really don't deserve you as a friend.

"I wonder if there's a bit of envy there that you have forged a new life in another country. People can be very resentful of success," one wrote.

"How rude and inconsiderate of everyone. I normally don't like to cause a fuss but in this instance I would message everyone and tell them what trouble you went to and how hurtful it was they didn't attend," another said.

Others speculated whether the lack of attendees might be down to the fact that she's moved away.

One said: "That is horrid and you are not being unreasonable to be upset. People absolutely should have told you beforehand whether they were coming or not.

"I did find, however, when I lived abroad, that relationships with people back home changed. Not maliciously, but your lives move on separately.

"For a few people, you can pick up exactly where you left every time you see each other again, but for most, the distance does change things."

But the best response was simply: "People can be so sh*t."