Let me start by prefacing this with, yes, there is fertility privilege involved in being able to conceive a baby and inherent privilege in having a healthy baby. So if either of these things trigger you, please consider this your trigger warning.
I want to discuss the baby disappointment that no-one talks about. The whispered and hushed things we can't say to anyone except our absolute closest; the hidden shame of feeling anything except gratitude and joy about an impending baby arrival. I am talking about gender disappointment.
We as a society need to start talking about the very real feelings that many women experience when it comes to gender disappointment. There is a sliding scale of disappointment, from a couple of weeks to adjust to the other end of the scale, where people consider a termination because of consequential mental health issues. This is a hidden topic in society that many women will face to some degree, however, it is something that people stay silent on.
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All I have ever wanted in life is a daughter; to have that mother and daughter connection (after a difficult mother-daughter relationship with my mother). I long to impart my womanly wisdom onto the next generation of females and share my experience of being a woman with my daughter. It wasn't the pink, or the dolls or the cute girl clothes that made me want this so badly, it was that enduring relationship and connection between a mother and her daughter.