When I look at the photo above, I feel a surge of mixed emotions: pride, gratitude, love, relief, respect and joy, peppered with some shame and humility… Let me explain.
Most of those emotions are obvious. For example, I’m very proud of the young woman in the middle – my daughter, Paige. You only have to look into her sparkling eyes to know she’s a good one. She has strong likes and dislikes and a very firm sense of the world. She basically knows how to push all of my buttons and her strong will can test me to the point I sometimes wonder which of us is the adult. It’s also what I love and respect most about her. I’ve always felt somewhat fragile and she’s always been strong, like a little lioness.
The other emotions I feel are entirely towards the woman on the left of this photo. She’s my daughter’s other mother, Clare.
She’s been around for years now, but recently, as we celebrated Paige’s Year 12 graduation ball, it finally hit me how extremely lucky we are to have her in our lives and how much my relationship with Clare has taught me as a mother and a woman.
Chloe Shorten speaks to Mia Freedman about her blended family on No Filter:
I don’t think it matters how long it’s been after a relationship involving a child has ended, there are always going to be lots of ‘feelings’ on all sides when new people enter the scene. My ex-partner Shayne and I were at university when Paige was born, we were basically kids ourselves and really had no idea what the hell we were doing (truth be told, I still don’t).
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My daughter, her stepmother and me... People are so afraid of referring to themself as ‘me’ they don’t use ‘me’ when it is correct. If it would be ‘me’ if alone, it remains ‘me’ when others are mentioned beforehand. If you are showing a picture of yourself you would say this is ‘me’ not this is I. Therefore, you then say this is my daughter and me. Natalie on channel 9, the other day said, the school sent a letter to my husband (named him) and I, she would not say the school sent a letter to I, therefore, the school sent a letter to my husband and ‘me’. They are journalists, it amazes me, we were taught that principle in Primary School.
Yes, you are right it is called ‘hypercorrecting’ people are so aware of making an error with the word me they swap it in every instance with I and that is often very incorrect.
I have the best relationship with my husbands ex wife with co-parenting, in fact its probably better than the one my husband has with her. Wouldn't it be nice If all blended families could work together rather than against each other however I find most people find the relationship between us extremely unusual and even odd. The best part is, the kids know they are loved and supported from both homes.
If only everyone felt that way!