And that was the start of the next 17 hours being broken down into micro moments, spinning through task after task.
Dressing my toddler, washing dishes, playing dinosaurs, putting clothes away, changing nappies, more feeding, thinking about dinner, paying the phone bill, remembering that I still haven’t got anything out of the freezer and wondering when exactly does the car insurance need to be renewed?
The sexiest thing a man can do is share the mental load. Post continues after video.
The mental load. We’ve heard a lot about it over the last few years. It’s those things like knowing your kid’s shoe size, booking their vaccinations, remembering your mother-in-law’s birthday and keeping an eye on the bank accounts.
And for the best part women bear the brunt of it. We know this. It isn’t anything new.
We still do more chores around the home than our partners, as well as spending more time caring for our children and also balancing it with careers.
In fact, released in April this year the 2018 McKinsey Report officially showed that women are 10 times more likely to take time off work to look after sick children than men, even if they’re the breadwinner.
And it also showed that females spend twice as much time taking care of the kids, even if they work the same hours as their partners.
So, are men generally just a bit crap when it comes to pitching in? I have no firm science to back this, except for what I see with my own eyes, and I’d say for the best part men (not all) don’t generally take initiative around the home unless they’re given a detailed plan to follow.
And that’s part of the problem, right? Thinking about a plan and instilling it takes up so much time that we might as well do it ourselves aka the mental load.
But there’s another side no one really talks about and that is perhaps, in some slightly masochistic way, us women actually enjoy doing the lion’s share.