Why The Living Room’s Barry Du Bois hasn’t told his five-year-old twins he has cancer.

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Renovator and TV presenter Barry Du Bois has shared intimate details of how he is coping with his cancer returning, revealing he hasn’t told his children about the cancer diagnosis.

In an interview with Osher Günsberg on his podcast, The Living Room host said he had been overwhelmed by the outpouring of support he received when he told viewers his cancer had returned after living six years in remission.

The 57-year-old father-of-two was first diagnosed with plasmacytoma myeloma in 2011 after the cancer in his bone barrow had caused his spine to break.

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He then underwent a 15-hour surgery to put in a titanium spine to repair the damage and to stabilise his spine, and had aggressive radiation therapy – which cleared the cancer.

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Last month, however, he told viewers he was on the “exit off the freeway”  but intended to make that journey as long as possible.

“It seems that my cancer has come back, reasonably aggressively now I have what is regarded as multiple myeloma. We’ve got a cancer in my body that has created several tumours right through my body,” he said.

However, despite telling all of Australia of his diagnosis. There are two people he hasn’t told: his five-year-old twins Arabella and Bennett.

When asked how he spoke to his children about his cancer he told Günsberg, “I don’t. They’re five years old.”

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“How do you explain to a five-year-old, who thinks Peppa Pig is a real person that daddy’s going through something really bad?”

Du Bois went on to explain the reason he doesn’t tell them is he is doing everything he can to prevent the cancer from impacting their lives, and sees no reason to tell them while he is still relatively healthy.

“Daddy isn’t actually going through something really bad,” he continued.

“Daddy exercises every day, Daddy meditates every day, Daddy cuddles me every day, Daddy eats great food every day.

“And, the result of that will be the longevity of my life. Whether that is a year or 20. Let’s cross that bridge when we come to it.

“There’s nothing bad in my life, so what would I tell my kids?”

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Du Bois said the diagnosis had been so much harder the second time because of fatherhood, but also a great motivator for survival.

“When I got the news again this time around, I was so angry. I was really pissed off. At myself, at the world, at everything.

“Because, six years ago when I got it, we didn’t have children. I would have said to you that I had the best life that anyone could have had if this is my day, it’s my day.

“But when you have five-year-old children, yeah no. I’m not ready to go yet. So, I can’t believe I am going to go. I can’t. I refuse to. It’s not even in the room, it’s not in my head, it’s not in my world.”

You can listen to Barry Du Bois’ full interview with Osher on The Osher Günsberg Podcast.

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