It was more like brief lip-to-lip (and lip-to-neck) contact, for accuracy’s sake.
After accepting a rose from Nick, the 29-year-old photo shoot director from Queensland’s behaviour was uncomfortable to watch on so many levels. Some of us, including this writer, struggled to keep from burying our faces in our hands out of sheer embarrassment and awkwardness.
If you missed it, here’s the awkward exchange. Post continues after video.
But perhaps most uncomfortable of all was the question it raised. A question we don’t always like the answer to.
How would we feel if the roles were reversed?
If it was Nick kissing and sucking on Romy’s neck as she tried to laugh it off, even after she said no?
The comparison didn’t go unnoticed by viewers, many of whom pointed out we’d be outraged if it was a man kissing a woman without her consent.
Congrats to Romy for being that disgusting guy in a bar that makes up their own imaginary social queues in order to smash their face against yours ????????♀️ #TheBachelorAU
— Hannah (@hannahbecool) August 16, 2018
Isn’t it ironic that after the #TheBachelorAU and Romy’s efforts, Law & Order Sexual Victims Unit is on.
— Jackson Holt (@_jacksonholt) August 16, 2018
#TheBachelorAU Imagine if this was the other way around re Romy and Nick….just saying….
— Gidgit VonLaRue (@GidgitVonLaRue) August 16, 2018
I’m so uncomfortable with Romy basically forcing herself on Nick multiple times. Kind of slowly grooming him by breaking down his boundaries.
It’s calculated and wilful ignorance of a person’s signals and interest levels.
This is not ok in 2018#TheBachelorAU
— Dame Kittness (@SoftKittyWarm) August 16, 2018
Romy: “It wasn’t tacky or forced.”
— Mackenzie Ravn (@mackenzieravn) August 16, 2018
sorry but if this was bachelorette and a guy did what romy was doing to nick everyone would go nuts. what romy is doing is wrong! #TheBachelorAU
— amy (@amyhutchinson0) August 16, 2018
It’s true, we would be outraged.
It’s for this reason we have to keep stopping ourselves from brushing behaviour like Romy’s off as cute and harmless, or a woman ‘going after what she wants’.
Being The Bachelor, along with all its spoils, can be a tough gig. Sure, you get to date multiple women at once, but if you kiss too many of them, and with too much tongue, you’re a player, and if you don’t, you’re boring.
We unpack the best moments from the Honey Badger’s first week on our Bach Chat podcast. Post continues after audio.
Nick himself has admitted he found it difficult as “a red blooded male” to resist temptation and be conscious of everyone’s feelings. In some situations, it can be really hard to say no, and what doesn’t make it easier is when someone keeps pushing your boundaries rather than respecting them.
Whether it’s a man forcing a woman or a woman forcing a man, no is no. Even on The Bachelor.
You crossed the line, Romy. How badly you wanted to say you ‘pashed him first’ is irrelevant.
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