As told to Phil Brandel.
Nobody walks down the aisle thinking it won’t work. I certainly didn’t. If you had told me 20 years ago that I would be divorced three times before I was 45, I would have laughed in your face. I’m a serial monogamist, and I love love.
But now, three marriages in and with my third divorce becoming final next month, I’ve learnt a lot about men, relationships and myself.
I first got married when I was 27, he was six years older than me and a bank manager. Him being older and a professional was really attractive to me.
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Not long after getting married I got invited by a local radio station to enter a local stand-up comedy competition. At the time my husband told me not to enter because he said I 'wasn’t funny.’
First prize was a trip to Scotland for two. I told him if I won, I wouldn’t be taking him but If I didn’t win, he would get to be right forever.
So when I won the competition I took my brother, and I got to perform at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival. The whole experience lit a creative fire underneath me, and when I got back the radio station offered me a job. This upset my husband as we both had serious jobs, and he wanted a serious wife and family.
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So did you really come out on top after all? God hates divorce and your first divorce, do you believe it was legitimate in His eyes? If it wasn't, do you think maybe you are experiencing correction from God in terms of your relationships? I have found this is exactly the way He works. I speak to you as someone who also has several failed relationships and I can see clearly my part in all of it. My greatest fault? I didn't seek Gods wisdom on whom to marry. Now I am paying the price and I suspect you are too.