Simon and I had offices less than 10 feet from one another for four years, but I’d never given him much thought until after we both attended the same work conference during my separation.
During a lunch break between sessions, he told me he was going to a used bookstore nearby.
Surprised, I said, “Could I come along?”
“Sure,” he said.
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After we’d perused two different bookstores, we each ordered an espresso at a cute cafe. I looked at him across the table from me and thought, “Interesting.”
Three months after I’d filed for divorce, Simon and I started dating.
We agreed in the beginning, based on my suggestion, not to tell anyone and to keep our distance from one another during the workday.
After a few weeks, I told my closest friend at work.
“Him? Really?” she said.
“Yeah, why?” I asked.
“I just would have never put the two of you together. You seem so… different.”
I wished I’d pressed her to explain more, but I had to learn what she meant the hard way.
When I let Simon know that I’d told my friend, he asked, “Can I tell people too?”
“Sure, but keep it to people you can trust.”
I expected Simon to understand that he needed to treat the details of our relationship respectfully.