When writing a dating profile it’s a good idea to tell interested parties a bit about yourself.
Your taste in music, movies and your fondness for troll dolls, it helps people get to know you and see if they’re interested.
I would suggest that you pay extra attention as to how you describe preferences though. I learnt that the hard way.
When I signed on for online dating this time around, I had just come out of a “serious” relationship. The first of my life.
I answered the multitude of inane questions and then set about writing my bio. I wrote of my love of old movies, disco music and turkish delight. I also casually mentioned my disability.
And I wrote that I was “open-minded” and was looking for the same.
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I meant that I needed people to look past my appearance and be able to handle my disability (this had been the issue that broke the relationship I had just come out of). Little did I know what “open mindedness” really entailed.
I’ll be honest. It took a while for anyone to look my way, but eventually it did happen.
The first guy that approached me was nice. He was a bit older than I was but he had a good job and as it turned out, we had a lot in common. After a few days of corresponding, he asked what it was that I needed him to be open-minded about. I told him and he seemed unfazed. Adding that he too had something to share. He was a cross-dresser.
This did not really faze me. But I think I shocked him with my response.
“That’s OK” I said. “As long as you stay out of my wardrobe.” Truth be told I was excited by the prospect of someone to play dress up with.
Eventually the conversation turned to what we wanted out of a relationship. This is where things got a bit weird.
I told him that I just wanted a nice guy who was comfortable with my disability, who I could settle down with. He, on the other hand, wanted a straight relationship, a same-sex relationship and a transsexual relationship, and he wanted them all at the same time.
I might have been able to embrace the dresses, but I am simply a one-person girl.