Being a tween or a teen can be tough. So can parenting one. So how do you get answers to questions you aren’t sure who to ask? That’s where Ask Me Anything comes in. It’s the short, sharp, car-trip podcast giving heartfelt answers to real-life anonymous questions from teenage girls. From friendship dramas to first crushes, author and columnist Rebecca Sparrow is here to listen and offer some advice. And today, we’re publishing one of her answers to one of the real-life question we received…
Q. Dear Bec, How do I tell a girl I don’t like her?
I’m struggling to think of a situation where you actually need to go up to someone and say, “Hey, do you know if our maths homework is due today and BY THE WAY I THINK YOU SUCK.”
Honesty is important but it’s equally important to treat each other with kindness.
Listen to Bec’s answer here:
So, there’s someone at school you don’t like and maybe you have good reason. The thing is, there is little to be gained from confronting people and telling them you don’t like them. Nobody takes that information well and before you know it your high school days could turn into the TV show Riverdale. Nobody needs that. You have tests to study for.
So let’s go through two possible scenarios where you are dealing with a girl whom you don’t really like:
A girl you find irritating has started hanging around you or your group.
I know what you’ve done (or thought about doing): you’ve hidden from her at lunch and rolled your eyes when she speaks. And still, she’s hanging around you.
Here’s the thing. You will come to really, really regret behaving like this. When you’re older you’ll realise that this girl was simply lonely or feeling lost. So until she finds friends from her own tribe (and eventually she will) the right thing to do, the KIND thing to do, is to try and see her great qualities instead of the annoying ones. Do I sound like your mother? Probably.
One day, you might be the girl at school or uni or work who needs a friend.