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5 details that were missing from Netflix's documentary Tell Me Who I Am.

This post deals with child sexual abuse and might be triggering for some readers.

Netflix lovers have been captured by the story of the Lewis twins, as told through the documentary Tell Me Who I Am.

It’s one of those stories that’s hard to shake from your brain once you’ve seen it.

The Lewis brothers were abused by their mother and a circle of paedophiles as children, only for a motorbike accident to give one of them a clean slate.

Watch the trailer for Netflix’s Tell Me Who I Am. Post continues after video. 

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Alex Lewis woke up aged 18 with no memory whatsoever. He recognised only one thing: his twin brother Marcus.

Marcus took it upon himself to create a new reality for his brother, one filled with fun and joy, as he couldn’t bear to see his brother relive the truth of their past.

When the twins were in their 30s their mother died, and it was then that the story Marcus concocted started to unravel.

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Marcus and Alex Lewis. Image: Netflix.
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Marcus eventually answered the question "were we abused as children?" with a simple "Yes."

Alex didn't learn the true details of what they went through as boys until this documentary was filmed, when the twins were in their 50s.

Here are all the things we've learnt since watching their story on Netflix.

The twins' siblings were involved.

The focus of the documentary is on the twins and their mum, but Alex and Marcus also had two younger step siblings, Oliver and Amanda, who played an integral role in their story.

The moment Alex truly started to question his family's dynamic post-accident is explored in the twins' book of the same name; Tell Me Who I AmHe was struck by the fact that he was the only one out of the four kids that cried when their mother died.

Although it's unclear if Amanda was also subjected to the crimes of their mum Jill, Oliver was abused as a child and spent his childhood thinking it was just him.

In 1996, after their mum's death the twins started separately seeing a therapist. For Alex he just knew something wasn't right. It was the therapist who told him he should speak to his siblings because she suspected abuse.

Their dad died after they were born.

The father the twins mention throughout the documentary is actually their step-father. Their biological dad was a salesman called John Lewis who died in a car crash when the twins were three days old.

Their mother remarried Jack Dudley, an accountant, and they went on to have Oliver and Amanda. He's the only father Alex and Marcus knew and, according to The Times, called the pair "the dim twins."

In the documentary we learn that he was a strict and often cruel man, not allowing the boys to have a key to their own home. However, the twins do not believe their step-father knew anything about their mother's abuse.

He lived a very separate life to his wife, despite the fact they were under the same roof - a 16th century house in Sussex called Duke's Cottage. They had separate wings in the home and had very little contact.

Their mother was super rich.

Born in 1931, Jill Dudley was a debutante distantly related to British Prime Minister Clement Attlee, which might explain her high-profile friends.

Shortly after her second marriage, Jill had a psychotic episode which, according to a 2013 The Times article, resulted in her having a "sexual awakening."

The twins were put into a care home while she went and had various affairs with people.

"She wasn’t depressed,” Marcus told the publication, “she was out shagging, drinking and partying. I was very upset, she so callously abandoned us so she could get on with her lifestyle.”

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The twins and their mother Jill. Image: Netflix.
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The abuse suffered by the boys happened soon after they returned to the family home after being begged and shamed to return by family and friends.

A few months before she died, the twins discovered their mother had been hoarding money left to her by relatives of the Attlee family. They'd always assumed they were poor given they'd grown up in second-hand clothes.

She had agreed to help them with a loan, and according to Alex the bank had never seen so much money in a current account. It was in the millions.

Jill owned an antique shop but she was also a hoarder, and not just of money.

Her house was full of 'stuff' with the twins' book talking about boxes of Easter eggs they found. Every single one they'd ever given her had been stashed away never to be eaten, and never to be thrown away.

The twins had dyslexia.

While the twins both had dyslexia as boys, Alex's amnesia somewhat cured him.

“He became less dyslexic than me…Dyslexic kids who have had a fairly torrid time at school - they get bullied, they’re told they’re stupid, their self-esteem is very low - when they go out in the world, they have to drag themselves through that. But Alex didn’t have that, he’s forgotten it all, " Marcus told The Times. 

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The twins as they are today. Image: Netflix.
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"I have dyslexia and I have the trauma of dyslexia. I had to fill out a form in a bank the other day and it all came back, I couldn’t spell my name and I panicked. Alex doesn’t have that."

Oliver discovered the naked photo.

In the documentary a big focus is put on a picture found in their mother's possessions after her death.

It was a photo of the twins with their heads chopped off and it was one of the things Alex talks about feeling "weird" about finding. It was one of the key puzzle pieces that made him go in search of the truth.

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The twins as children. Image: Netflix.

As revealed in the twins' book it was their brother Oliver that discovered the disturbing photo in their mum's bedside drawer.

The boys were 10 in the picture, maybe younger. They were also naked.

In the book the realisation reads as follows: "Oliver called his brothers and handed it to them without a word. Her twin sons displayed as faceless bodies. For once, their ability to turn almost anything into a joke failed them. As the house was emptied of a lifetime’s possessions, something dark was coming to the surface."

Tell Me Who I Am is streaming on Netflix  right now. 

If this post brings up any issues for you, or if you just feel like you need to speak to someone, please call 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) – the national sexual assault, domestic and family violence counselling service. It doesn’t matter where you live, they will take your call and, if need be, refer you to a service closer to home.

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