Many are calling it “hilarious” and “the best birthday present”, but in reality? This is real life revenge porn.
There is no excuse for cheating.
That much is obvious, and the feelings of betrayal upon discovering that someone you have known for a short or long period of time has emotionally or physically been with another would be completely devastating.
Even with these feelings of betrayal and anger and hurt that come with the discovery of cheating, there is also no excuse for seeking the type of revenge one man admitted to on a recent Reddit thread.
Calling it “birthday present to ex-wife”, a man described how he threw a surprise party to catch his cheating wife in the act.
It was just him, his wife, his wife’s lover and several of her friends as well as her mum and dad.
~Hilarious~ so far, right?
The Redditor, Itsme03, desribed the lead up to his decision.
“So I had a feeling she was cheating as she set off a lot of red flags. Constantly laughing and smiling when texting, saying it was just her mother when I asked. Needing to stay late every night after work. When I’d call in her co-workers said she left hours ago. When I asked her what was going on she’d laugh it off and say it was just something they did to each other at the office all the time.”
He explained he made his decision after a fairly unconvincing lie from his partner,
“The last straw to where I knew something was definitely up was when she went out “to get milk” at 11:30 at night and didn’t come back till 2 in the morning.”
After explaining that she didn’t want a birthday party and that he should go away for her birthday weekend instead, Itsme03 hatched his plan.
” I know something is up and after finding a bottle of champagne and two glasses hidden in my closest something in my snaps. So I do what any sensible man would have done. I leave and go to my friends house pretending like I am going out of town. While there I call up her mother, father, sister and several of her friends. I tell them how I want to give her a big surprise by sneaking into her room with party streamers, kazoos and a big cake with candles. Sounds fun right?! Well boy was it.”
This is how he said it went down.
“Its 8:30 in the morning and I have everyone met just outside our apartment. We all pile in the elevator (about 8 of us in total), her mother holding the cake and me reminding everyone to be as quiet as they can be. My put my key in and unlock the door, we all sneak in and make our way down the hall towards the bedroom. Each hold a kazoo and Mom holding the cake grinning from ear to ear.
Well as I throw open the door and we all yell surprise. But the surprise was on us and there was my wife… with her lover staring at us wide eyed … Mom drops the cake, sister screams, father begins to shout. I pretend like I’m horrified to which her friends try to push everyone out while yelling at her. Wife, excuse me, ex-wife is sobbing and screaming how could I while the lover is desperately trying to put his pants on while running out of the place. Needless to say, it was one of the best birthday presents I have ever given.”
Let me be clear.
I am in no way endorsing her behaviour, or suggesting cheating is OK. I believe it is, and will always be unacceptable. But that “birthday present” is also completely and utterly wrong.
Shaming and publicly embarrassing someone in front of their family and friends in that way is completely out of line and inexcusable. Whether it is done by posting revenge porn on websites of ex-partners, or creating a scenario in which friends and family walk in on them, it is a huge violation of their privacy and their bodies.
Having said this, Itsme03 did have a more moderate response in a subsequent reply to a commenter.
Last I heard she had moved in with the guy, or at least I think it was him. She had gotten pregnant and most likely has the kid. If they’re still together, I really couldn’t tell you. At this point I just hope she found some happiness, even if its not me being the one who gives it to her.