This week, we had a particularly heated debate on our flagship podcast Mamamia Out Loud.
It was in regards to cheating, and more specifically, the morality and politics that comes with being the ‘Other Woman‘.
What does sleeping with a married man say about you? Is the act ever justifiable? And do some great love stories begin with a case of infidelity?
We spoke to four different women about where they sit on the subject of having an affair with a man who is already married.
Xian – 33
“I think it says you’re selfish.
Of course, everyone is capable of complex feelings, and perhaps being attracted to someone who is in a relationship or even married. But practice some self-restraint.
If the person truly loves you, and their marriage is truly broken, then let them sort out their own mess before they drag you into it.
My father cheated on my mother for a decade. I knew and she didn’t. He would invite some of the women over for dinner, and I couldn’t believe it when they’d look me in the eye, and act like everything was fine.
If my mother found out, it would’ve destroyed her. She dedicated her whole life to my dad, and invested so much into their marriage. And women who met her and saw how much she adored my father, happily slept with him. He decided to spend time with them, rather than at home with us, and I know that’s on him, but it’s also the reality of having an affair with a married man. You’re sleeping with him, while his wife is at home cooking his dinner. There’s a profound injustice in that.
Man or woman – sleeping with someone who is in a monogamous relationship is just a shitty thing to do.”
Emily – 21
“Despite what everyone else seems to think, sleeping with a married man doesn’t automatically make you an awful person. It just makes you a flawed person capable of making bad decisions like the rest of us.